People having children in dysfunctional relationships

[BoomKat13]

We as a society like looking down on women who are single when they get pregnant and choose to continue with the pregnancy, as we assume they'll be benefit scroungers and leech off the system. But why is there not the same accountability for people in relationships having kids when there are problems in the relationship? When they end up getting divorced, arguing back & forth about custody/money/new partners no one has a go at them about the effect it'll have on their children. What about the people who would rather live off spousal support than get a job and fend for themselves? Surely a woman who has married a man for his money, had a child then expects to be supported for the rest of their lives is just as bad as someone having 13 kids on benefits?

But there's not really any such thing as spousal support now, is there? I thought the courts wanted a clean break.

When they end up getting divorced, arguing back & forth about custody/money/new partners no one has a go at them about the effect it'll have on their children

I'm pretty sure people who care about the family would be concerned for the children, as would the parents themselves?!

What a weird post.

Haven't you been on mumsnet before? I think all of those groups get judged as equally as badly IMO - just read through some of the past threads.

Bizarre post!

When they end up getting divorced, arguing back & forth about custody/money/new partners no one has a go at them about the effect it'll have on their children.

That's not true. Read the relationships board here.

I agree this is a bizarre post. Most relationships are not dysfunctional from the beginning. Everyone knows break ups affect the children, but what's the other option? Staying together in a bad relationship affects them just as much, if not more.

Imperial, yes spousal support is still a thing and it's bloody needed and useful for the times a pregnant woman is dumped and the husband fucks off with a new woman until she can get back on her feet. One of many reasons women may choose not to have a baby outside of marriage. It's rarely used long term for a woman to 'leech'.