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DP really angry at F4J is he BU?

70 replies

BlueDecor · 27/08/2017 13:42

He put this on his facebook feed and blocked them. He really went through a lot of abuse from EW. DV and using the DC against him as weapons, false allegations (proven to be false) which is still continuing 8 years later so he did support F4J as he saw them as a force for good to help loving Dad's see their DC's but their latest campaign and public trolling of Mylene Klass has really got his back up to the point where he want nothing more to do with them.
He loves shopping in Mothercare for our DC's with me, his Mother use to shop in Mothercare and he has never been refused access to the baby changing room there or anywhere. He said if he did have that problem he'd phone head office or write a letter. He is digusted that grown men are objecting to the name Mothercare as well, sees the whole thing as ridiculous and just the usual obsession with what he call's ist's and ism's.
Personally I don't think he is BU I think he's right. He asked me to post on Dadsnet which I did but we'd also like the opinion of the Mums.
Here's his FB post:

Please Read:
I have long been a supporter of Father's 4 Justice because of what I have been through with regards to my ex witch and my twins.
However today I have removed my support for them due to the fact that they have now become a ridiculous media driven parody of what they once stood for. Their campaign to get Mothercare to change its name is ridiculous in the extreme, their public trolling of Mylene Class's private family business is a disgusting example of the bullying and abuse that any decent gentleman or Father would be wholly against.
Also their deletion of any comment on their feed by anyone who disagrees with what they are doing is not only extremely rude, undemocratic and biased but also borderline fraudulent in my opinion in the arena of the public opinion of the very people they perport to represent. i.e . Us Dad's!
If anyone wishes to share and post this comment or put it on the Father's 4 Justice page please do so because I have blocked them in light of the above.

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LakieLady · 27/08/2017 13:46

He was VU for getting involved with that bunch of misogynist shits, but it seems he has come to his senses, so no longer U!

RedHelenB · 27/08/2017 13:47

Actually Mothercare does sound a bit dates but no doubt they have done the studies and decided not to rebrand. And some of it is just for mother like maternity wear and nursing bras.

BertrandRussell · 27/08/2017 13:48

No decent "gentleman or father" would have supported them in the first place.

And he shouldn't be using F4J language like "ex-witch" to describe his children's mother.

BlueDecor · 27/08/2017 13:49

Oops typo alert thanks to someone for pointing it out. DP has been informed it should have said ex wife not ex witch. How do I take that spellchecker off of his phone or edit my post above?

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grandOlejukeofYork · 27/08/2017 13:50

He's an attention seeking drama llama who was mixed up with a load of misogynistic wankers and is a bit late to seeing them for what they are.

mickeysminnie · 27/08/2017 13:51

So your husband (and you) want a pat on the back because you have 'seen the light'
To be honest calling his ex wife a witch on a public forum that his kids will no doubt see makes me think he should stick with f4j. Birds of a feather and all that!

PotteringAlong · 27/08/2017 13:52

Do you really need multiple threads about this?

Auspiciouspanda · 27/08/2017 13:52

Auto correct from wife to witch? Hmm..

LineysRun · 27/08/2017 13:52

That's two threads on MN now that you've used the term 'ex witch'.

GeekyWombat · 27/08/2017 13:54

Lineys It's some kind of autocorrect thing you know...

Grin
Hulder · 27/08/2017 13:55

He was an eejit for getting involved with F4J in the first place rather than the eminently sensible Families Need Fathers.

At least he's seen the light. Point his energies into something that isn't escalating drama and is actually helping people with contact issues.

WorraLiberty · 27/08/2017 13:55

Huh? Confused

He's asking other people to post on F4J's Facebook page for him

He's asked you to post on Dadsnet for him

He's asked you to post on Mumsnet for him

Just out of interest, when will you be wiping his arse for him, as his fingers are clearly broken?

SaturnUranus · 27/08/2017 14:01

So your DP's entire course of action so far has been to block their FB page, and then leave everyone else to do the actual work?

I'll bet F4J are really quaking in their Batman costume boots.

BertrandRussell · 27/08/2017 14:03

"Autocorrect"Grin

PoorYorick · 27/08/2017 14:11

I can't be bothered to look it up so I might be wrong, but I'm pretty sure their founder defected some years ago because he was sick of it being hijacked by men who were being denied access for very good reasons.

KidLorneRoll · 27/08/2017 14:12

F4j are a bunch of cunts. What took him so long to realise?

AgentProvocateur · 27/08/2017 14:14

"Ex witch"? Sounds like he's as big a misogynistic wanker as the rest of them.

BlueDecor · 27/08/2017 14:16

It was a F* typo copied and pasted from his FB page. He's now deleted the post and I've asked the mods to delete the threads due to the insults we're getting just for asking an opinion. Is this how grown adults are supposed to act?

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RhiWrites · 27/08/2017 14:17

sees the whole thing as ridiculous and just the usual obsession with what he call's ist's and ism's.

He sounds like a delight.

Rufustherenegadereindeer1 · 27/08/2017 14:20

People are understandably annoyed with the ex-witch bit

Itll calm down in a bit and may turn into an interesting thread

Its a bit gutless to ask for it to be deleted after a few comments you are unhappy about

NewbiedontknowwhatIamdoing · 27/08/2017 14:20

Sounds like he is having a hissy fit. We have freedom of speech, he supported a group changed his opinion and now doesn't support them. Why the need for the melodrama?

Mothercare does seem a bit one sided as a name, when both parents should care for their child but they still have the right to use it as does F4J have a right to campaign against it.

Anyone can delete posts from their feed if they want, it doesn't make you a monster.

LRDtheFeministDragon · 27/08/2017 14:21

F4j are a bunch of cunts. What took him so long to realise?

This.

AllTheWittyNamesAreGone · 27/08/2017 14:22

Why do you post for him
Why post twice

ReanimatedSGB · 27/08/2017 14:23

The fact taht it took him this long to realise what wankers they are shows he's a bit slow on the uptake. Nearly all the founders were actually abusers, banned from seeing their DC for good reasons.

TBH, while there are some women who cut the DC's father out of their lives because of malice rather than the need to protect DC, there are many, many more men who are a danger to ex-partners and children, or who expect to have everything their own way despite paying little or no maintenance.

CallMeKate · 27/08/2017 14:24

He's a dick for getting involved with them in the first place. Many mothers withhold contact for damn good reasons. Fathers for Justice are a bunch of attention seeking morons.

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