Too soon? Thoughts!

[alittlepieceofme]

I'm I being unreasonable to send this to my ex who walked out on us 5 days

I don't think today is such a good idea, I think it's too soon! I don't want u spending time here doing jobs after what you have done! You have abandoned a new mum and a young baby! I'm disgusted with you! You don't deserve Ds and he certainly doesn't deserve you! You are so selfish, you don't care how this is going to affect Ds, I know you think this is best for all of us but really this is what's best for you!

He hasn't messaged once to see how he is or to say he is missing him! I think what ds needs now is a happy mummy and I know this will make me cry for the day!

Maybe next Sunday is better?! I'm certainly not going to stop ex seeing ds, he needs a relationship with his father as much as me! But ds isn't missing him and don't think he's really noticed the change!

Sorry you're going through this OP. What's he done?

5 days is very soon so understandable

Aw OP.

How old is your son?

Aw op I'm sorry this has happened to you just at the time you need a partner the most. I think it's understandable you don't want him round.
Contact is meant to be what's best for the child and if he's a really young baby he won't know the difference as you said.

He said he's not happy here anymore and that he doesn't love me, I understand that I can't make him love me but only last week we were discussing when we were going to get married, holiday next summer even another child!

He's not willing to try and work on the relationship for ds sake! He said we were miserable, I wasn't!

I think this time in your life is challenging for a lot of couples but he doesn't see it like that! It must be a coincidence that this has all happened after we've had a baby! Or perhaps he's realised that being a parent isn't for him!

Oh alittlepiece sorry you are going through this.

He left. It would have been the height of insensitivity to send you a text saying he missed his son. It was his choice to leave.

But after 5 days he should see his son. You don't have to be there though.

I don't think it would be easier in a week's time. For any of you.

Good luck

Even his mother has said how spoilt he is, she said he always leaves her to pick up the pieces! He's 35!

I feel terrible that because of me he wouldn't see ds but since we have had him he hasn't paid for a thing, I was often left for up to 12 hours with ds. He hasn't bothered coming to hospital appointments with us, I pretty much had to beg him to come to an appointment for results of a scan! Thankfully nothing serious and easily sorted!

Ds is 8 months old and breastfed so he only wants me really when ex was here if I left the room he'd try and follow me rather than stay with ex.

I am also very sleep deprived!

I've told him he can come and see ds, I would never stop him from seeing him just absolutely furious with him at the moment! Thank you for the replies