To have a drink or two thinking I might be pregnant?

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Going to a big bash tomorrow. Rare day/night without DS. We've been TTC #2 for a couple of months. I'm 4 DPO. Would I be unreasonable to have a drink or two? I won't do shots or spirits, but maybe some wine with dinner and a glass of bubbly? I'm not a big drinker so wouldn't get drunk anyway. Or do people usually don't drink on the chance they might be pregnant? I'm aware it might take a while!

Omg elliotboy you are talking SUCH bullshit

The amount of shite that people spread to scare people is ridiculous. OP a few moderate drinks are absolutely fine given the stage you're at. In fact having a few in the early weeks is still fine as the placenta hasn't taken over yet and it's not going to cause any issues. Women cannot be expected to put their lives on hold while waiting for a BFP.

And shame on your Elliot for your high and mighty and completely inaccurate stance. I hope it makes you feel morally superior to cast judgments on others for making a sensible choice to drink when they're not yet aware of a pregnancy!

I got pregnant accidentally just before Christmas one year. I drank lots over Christmas and New Year! When I found out in early January, I discusssd it with my doctor. She laughed kindly at my concerns. She said what others have been saying - fertilised egg wouldn't have implanted till later on and then placenta needs to establish before alcohol can cross. She said she could tell by looking at me I didn't really drink that much (slim build) and to stop worrying (& start taking folic acid!). She also pointed out as others have said that alcohol and baby creation rather go together!

Would be fine even if you got absolutely tanked at this stage op. (Don't, though!)

Elliott is talking complete codswallop that is not relevant to your situation.

YANBU

You can't know at this point and if you look at women who are not actively TTC they would never know at this stage, a lot won't know for a good few weeks yet, and they go about their life's as normal and 99.9% of the time everything is fine.

Your not exactly going out binge drinking. One or two drinks are not going to hurt at this point. Enjoy your night.

My son was not planned. He was conceived on a family holiday 20 years ago where the gin was flowing freely. I have never been a big drinker but I was still having 2 or 3 generous gins and a couple of glasses of wine most nights as it was a lovely relaxing family time.
I didn't find out until I was 6 weeks and I had been drinking for all of that (maybe 6 or 7 units a week after the holiday).
I wouldn't have drunk anything if I had known (my choice) and I did stop immediately but he is absolutely fine with no ill effects at all.

At this point the embryo (if there is one) is just floating around in your Fallopian tube or uterus. It's not attached to you. I'd have a couple of drinks without hesitation.

Even after implantation takes place (around 10 days after conception), the placenta is not yet fully formed so it is a good few weeks before the foetus gets any nutrition from the mother.

OP you are safe to have a few drinks if you want to at this stage.

IMO if it's too early to know if you're pregnant, it's too early for anything you do physically to harm the baby. Your body isn't even producing a detectable level of the pregnancy hormone - IF you are even pregnant at all!

My attitude is live normally until you get a positive test, unless you have some medical history that indicates you should do otherwise.

Enjoy and good luck.

I'm a very rare drinker so was totally off it whilst ttc. 7 or 8 months in we were at a fancy restaurant so I thought a wee champagne cocktail and a glass of wine. Of course that was the month I got pregnant! DD absolutely fine

It took us 3 years to conceive DS2. It would have been a long 3 years if I'd abstained from absolutely everything on the NHS list during that time. I did have a healthy lifestyle and didn't actually drink very much and exercised a lot - we conceived over Xmas when I was drinking, eating rubbish and not exercising.

Your future baby wouldn't have even implanted yet - a couple of drinks would cause absolutely no harm whatsoever. Enjoy yourself!

It is so annoying when people claim specialist knowledge because their partner/sister/neighbour works in a particular field. My husband and I are both professionals in very different areas. He wouldn't have a clue about my area of expertise and vice versa.

The fact you're concerned about it means you probably shouldn't as you may not enjoy the drinks.
I dont think there is an issue at all, but if they are not going to be enjoyable, why bother?

I asked one of the UK's leading experts on miscarriage this question (should I not be drinking while TTC) and he told me it was absolutely fine to drink until you get a positive test.

I've noticed on the conception board that when you get women saying that of course they won't drink between ovulation and testing then they're nearly always on month 1 or 2... I'm sure it's very easy if you are lucky enough to fall immediately. I've been trying for over a year now. It's been quite a grim year and not having had a pint since last July would have made it all the grimmer!

Yanbu to drink. If I'd abstained all the months I'd ttc that would have been years and put on even more pressure!

As you don't know for sure if you are pregnant carry on as normal.

My DS was a pleasant surprise and I got absolutely drunk the day before I got my BFP. I stressed so much but when I spoke to my GP he almost laughed me out of his office. As pp have said, any potential baby is just floating around in there and won't be affected by anything in your body until the placenta takes over.

FAS indeed

I had a similar dilemma although I'd had two chemical pregnancies previously. I rang DH from the train on my way out in a flap saying I couldn't risk drinking, if something went wrong I'd blame myself etc etc.

He very calmly told me to calm down, relax and have a couple of drinks with my friends. I did. Am now 18 weeks and all is well so far

I'd imagine the women who only 'drank small amounts of alcohol in the very early days...of pregnancy who ended up with FAS babies' are being economical with the truth. Many people, particularly pregnant women, underreport their drinking and AFAIK there isn't any reliable way of screening prenatal alcohol use.

' The science is inconclusive but there are cases of women who drank small amounts of alcohol in the v early days (days, not weeks, not months) of pregnancy who have FAS babies. '

Bullshit!

Have a couple of beers.

in the v early days (days, not weeks, not months) of pregnancy who have FAS babies.

So totally irrelevant here as OP isn't in any days of pregnancy.

With both children I drank a lot of alcohol before finding out I was pregnant. They are fine.

ElliotBoy complete bullshit

If you were pregnant, the embryo doesn't have a blood supply from you yet, so no risk from having a drink or two

I found out I was pregnant the day after my 30th birthday....2 days prior to that I had been out celebrating and got shit-faced! The week before it was DHs birthday..we had a child-free night away and consumed a LOT of wine! I was distraught and told the midwife I was terrified I'd harmed my baby-she reassured me that it was extremely common (baby was a happy surprise!). I'm now 22 weeks!

DS1 was conceived on honeymoon, we did nothing but drink for a fortnight! He's perfect!

Go for it and enjoy! 🍷🍷