Aibu about a haircut

[WhiteHeartRed]

DH works shifts and I am alone most of the time. No support or help from my family or his. He does his best but only tends to do things if I ask, and I don't ask. My own fault. Self confidence on the floor, feel like shit. He left work early and got himself a lovely hair and beard cut. He looks amazing. I had just been thrown up on by our 5 month old as he walked in. Wearing house casual stuff as had been doing housework all morning packing and getting house ready for viewings, hasn't brushed my hair or showered yet! Felt really upset and was a bit of a bitch with him, just feel like I never get time to breath let alone look good.
AIBU? Think I need to give my head a wobble.

Yes I think your are being unreasonable. Can he now look after the baby while you get ready?

He's back to work. I tend to have the baby when he's home entirely. Thank you. I needed perspective.

You gave birth to his child five months ago?

In his eyes you're a goddess. He won't have noticed the puke, the matted hair or the skanky jammies.

Ask him to look after the baby while you have a bath and if you have the cash browse online for some smarter casual clothes to wear around the house.

I think having a 5 month old and being all glam is not very realistic unless you have nannies around to help. Your time will come too. Maybe ask your dh for some time for yourself at least once a week so you can just catch up with yourself. Don't be too hard on him or yourself.

Why not get a mobile hairdresser to pop round and give you a cut and blow dry??

I think you are all right. It has felt so stressful recently. There's been a lot of turbulence in the relationship due to a few different factors and we are buying our first house which heaped on the stress too. I think I feel so out of touch with myself and with him to a certain extent that him breezing in looking so handsome felt like a right kick in the face, as I know I look a horror most of the time. Head wobbled! Will text and apologise.

Good idea re mobile hairdresser! Might give one a call 🙂

Fgs woman ask him!! I am you but 14 months further along. Completely exhausted because I won't 'ask' for a lie in, or I won't 'ask' for a few hours to myself. I have recently and if your DH is a decent guy (like mine) he will do it in a heartbeat. I do the majority of the childcare because DH works longer hours.

He can't read my mind and I'm a nightmare for just saying "yeah I'm fine" when he asks! Now I'm back at work dd has stopped sleeping through the night for some reason and I need some sleep. He doesn't know how you feel unless you tell him!

Why do you have the baby when he's home too? Why doesn't he?

As someone said above, he asks and I say I'm fine. LO has been a nightmare to feed and I have felt like it's easier to do it myself.

As someone said above, he asks and I say I'm fine. LO has been a nightmare to feed and I have felt like it's easier to do it myself.

Don't get in the habit of being the default child carer. Ensure he does his bit or you will regret it later. If he has time to he getting nice hair cuts, then you should also be getting that time.
It's very easy to put everyone else's needs above your own but it really is important that your baby's dad is actively involved or you will always struggle to get sny time for yourself.

I reckon a good chat needs to be had about division or labour! I honestly think he does his best and wants to help, I don't communicate what I need as it's easier just to do it myself then I end up feeling put on when if I was just better at asking I wouldn't be. Thanks all, appreciate the perspective and the good old shake I obviously needed!