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To have expected an immediate well done

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Roadtohell66 · 26/08/2017 15:25

So we are on holiday. Returning home today.
I took some GCSE as a mature student. I planned to wait until I was home to get results.
However last night tutor emailed me to say I got a 5 and a c. Not great grades but I was thrilled.
So I excitedly told dh this morning and his response was not well done that is excellent. Instead he got all shirty and said thought you were waiting for result.
He later said a grudging well done but it isn't good enough is it?
I actually feel really hurt. Aibu

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fairypuff · 26/08/2017 15:27

Perhaps he had a surprise waiting for when you got back and actually opened the envelope and now that's been spoilt?
If not he's a twat.

sonjadog · 26/08/2017 15:32

My boyfriend could respond like that. He likes to stick to rules and if you have said your going to do something, he doesn´t like it if you don´t stick to the plan. I´d ended up slightly exasperated.

So YANBU. Tell him to get his act together and celebrate this evening.

notanotherNC · 26/08/2017 15:32

Maybe he thought you would be disappointed with the marks? I dunno, sounds a bit nasty otherwise.

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Roadtohell66 · 26/08/2017 15:32

I wish. He is here with me. Results back home. He had better think of something to make it up to me.

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Roadtohell66 · 26/08/2017 15:33

I had convinced myself one of them was a d and had said this many times. Hence why I was so excited.
My bubble has been well and truly burst.

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Mrscropley · 26/08/2017 15:35

Sounds like he is a bit envious!!

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Roadtohell66 · 26/08/2017 15:36

Maybe that is it Sonja. Unfortunately my tutor knew I expected to fail one of them so kindly emailed me.

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userofthiswebsite · 26/08/2017 15:37

Well, I wish you well done on your results. Go buy yourself something nice as a present to yourself. I sure would...

RebeccatheOld · 26/08/2017 15:37

Don't let him being a nobber burst your bubble! You still got the grade! Well done! Great acheivement!

shinyshiner · 26/08/2017 15:38

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Roadtohell66 · 26/08/2017 15:38

He has far higher qualifications than me. So more likely he doesn't value them.

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Lovestonap · 26/08/2017 15:38

well done OP!

It's so disappointing when it feels that someone can't be pleased for us - things like this, others should take their cue from how you feel about it.

Have you asked him where he's taking you to celebrate? Smile

YouRat · 26/08/2017 15:40

Well done op. Flowers
Some people can speak without thinking.

maras2 · 26/08/2017 15:40

Miserable pig.
Well done roadtohell Flowers Wine
Try to enjoy the rest of your day with or without Mr.Sucks the joy out of life mardy bastard. Smile Mx.

peekyboo · 26/08/2017 15:43

Please be thrilled with yourself, you deserve it! I'm a tutor and I see how hard adult students have to work to get through studies and exams once they've left school. You should be very proud of yourself!

And unfortunately, some people are just bubble bursters, I expect if you look back he's done it with other things too.

Ignore his reaction, get your happy face back on and off out with you to celebrate!

LorLorr2 · 26/08/2017 15:45

I agree that it sounds like he had something nice planned for when you got your result or perhaps he didn't want you to rush getting them, either way he's left something unsaid. Have you told him how it made you feel and asked why that was his reaction?

Please don't let it burst your bubble, WELL DONE!! Flowers

PollytheDolly · 26/08/2017 15:46

Well done OP 👍👏🏆

ConfessorKahlan · 26/08/2017 15:51

Congratulations OP! You're a Star!

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Roadtohell66 · 26/08/2017 15:51

Thank you. I picked up email after I popped out for the prossecca (sp) deal at Lidl. It was sold out but said If I had known I could have brought a bottle anyway Still no comment.

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AnnieAnoniMouse · 26/08/2017 15:57

Congratulations! 🥂🍾

His attitude stinks. (I'll eat my bike tyres if he had some surprise planned at home). Ask him WTAF his attitude is all about.

If his attitude isn't unusual, ask yourself why you're with him.

Git.

peekyboo · 26/08/2017 16:01

My ex once told me to go and get a half decent education because he'd just started doing a Masters and I 'only' had a BA honours degree.

Some people just need to feel on top and part of that is keeping you down.

tararabumdeay · 26/08/2017 16:08

Congratulations. It was tough this year. All of the results were calculated on 16 year olds from last year. Of course they're going to be across the board. Schools enter the whole spectrum of learners.

For an adult returner to achieve two good passes in one year is spectacular. If your C was foundation then it's likely to have been capped at that level.

Do you know your points score for your 5? The higher end of the grade boundaries (82 - 93) is equivalent to a B.

You had a hell of a job to do in comparison to other years where grade boundaries were set in stone.

Saracen · 26/08/2017 16:09

CONGRATULATIONS!!! Really pleased for you. What great news your results are. Your hard work has paid off.

FanwankTheAbsurd · 26/08/2017 16:12

WOOOOOOOOO HOOOOOOOOOO !!!!!!!

👩🏼‍🎓🍾🍾🥇🎉🎉

Jolly Well Done OP

MN is very proud of you 😘

FanwankTheAbsurd · 26/08/2017 16:15

My dd also did GCSEs this year, she wouldn't let me do a Happy Dance for her (I'm very embarrassing don't you know 😉) so I shall now perform a Happy Dance in your honour.

💃🏼💃🏼💃🏼

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