NC father won't take no for an answer

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I am NC (although not stringently) with my family due to childhood abuse and just general dislike for them.

My fathers wife has messaged me today to inform me that she, my father and sibling will be coming to visit me from their home country to mine on Monday.

No request from my father, no contact, no asking if that so ok. I've told her that no, it isn't convenient and I certainly won't be seeing my father who cannot even contact me directly to ask if I want to see him.
What gives him the right to assume I'll just drop everything when he decides to throw a scrap of time and attention at me for the first time in months?
I feel so cross and upset.

Aibu to just say 'no. It's not convenient.'

Yadnbu

YANBU.

I would make sure I wasn't in on Monday, go and do something fun.

I am NC with my father, and whilst he hasn't pulled a stunt like this he's certainly capable of it...

I agree with pp, say no, and then don't be in on Monday.

Thankfully my father doesn't know where I live!

He isn apparently having phone troubles st the moment so I have sent a text to my DB whom still lives at home.

Excuse the typo of 'common' instead of common!

Coming! I've made the typo three times now

Aibu to just say 'no. It's not convenient.'

Yes. Lose the 'convenient'.

They'll ask when it is convenient.

No, you don't want to. End of story.

Of course YANBU. Make sure you're out on Monday just in case they manage to find your address.

Just no.
No works well.

YANBU

I just find it so frustrating that I've told my DSM several times that no, I don't want to see him and then she makes the assumption that it's fine.

Who arranges a visit from one country to the next without asking if the person if they want visited!

I just spoke with my father and told him that I don't think our relationship is at the meeting up/seeing DGC stage as I am still very hurt about somethings and i am sure he is too.

Hopefully that will sort it.