To ask for a hand hold...?

[Scaredandidontknow]

NC as identifying.

Found out today that my mum has a carcinoid tumour in her lung. Not much more info than that, only that it's been there a while.

I've looked it up and the prognosis for this type of tumour is positive. We don't know if it has spread to anywhere else yet but hopefully not.

I just don't really know what to do. I feel a bit useless now & hate waiting for further referrals /tests. My mum is in good spirits but I don't know if she's just putting on an act. My sister has taken it in her stride. I think my dad is concerned.

I'm lying here wide awake, playing out every scenario in my mind with DP snoring beside me. I haven't told any friends as there isn't much to tell at the moment. But I just needed to tell someone so here it is.

I don't have any experience in this, but didn't want to read and run. My hand is here if you want to hold it...

I'm sorry, it's tough when loved ones are sick
FIL had bowel cancer last year, (he's doing really well now) I know it's hard, but try to keep positive and stay away from overthinking - take it a day/appointment at a time.
Can you have a chat with your sister or DP? When you're keeping a brave face for your mum, it's good to have someone to offload with and not keep all the emotions bottled up.
Medicine is so advanced now, and you said prognosis for this looks good, try to focus on that and not get caught up in the 'what ifs'
Hugs!

Wanted to offer a hand
Be kind to yourself OP

The waiting to find out next steps is torture, but keep focused on the fact it has the potential to be a good prognosis.

Even treatment for the 'positive' cancers will wring it out of the patients and their families.

Until you know more, there isn't much you can do, so try to rest even if you can't sleep.

Wishing you and your mum all the best.

Thanks everyone. It was a tough night but it's morning now and I'm feeling much more positive today. Will focus on the positives and be there for my mum.

Thoughts are with you and your mum ...
I went through it with my mum and it's hard but you will get through it.
She's lucky to have such a lovely daughter

It is difficult and at times it is going to be really hard. Let your employer know even if you don't tell anyone else. As Gingernaut said even the good stories are tough.
I had some lovely support from people here and in RL - take what you need and decline / ingnore what you don't.

Thanks and good advice @Unescorted . I wasn't going to mention anything in work unless it got very serious but I think I'll have to, just in case.