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Am I being over dramatic regarding fire

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Mrsweasley123 · 25/08/2017 21:35

Last night we had a fire in our house, it was confined to the kitchen, only my husband was injured (burns, and some smoke inhalation). It was in the evening so I very quickly got my kids out. In the grand scheme of fires it was probably pretty minor, today went into work in the morning but ended up coming home to deal with various insurance type stuff.

I now feel completely overwhelmed, my anxiety has just gone through the roof, my mum who had taken the kids due to fire was about 10 minutes late bringing them back and I was completely panicked they had been in a car crash. I feel so overwhelmed and tearful, I can't sleep and I can't even bear to go anywhere near the kitchen.

The fire wasn't huge, we were all fine, and I feel like this is such an over the top reaction, anyone been through something like this?

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NorthernLurker · 25/08/2017 21:38

That doesn't sound minor to me, your kitchen is trashed, your h had to get your kids out of a burning home and your husband was injured. Presumably you had a street full of emergency services and your adrenaline was through the roof. That's not nothing. Totally normal to feel shocked and anxious today. It will fade in a few days, if it doesn't, seek medical help then. For now keep warm and lots of warm drinks.

EngTech · 25/08/2017 21:42

My guess is delayed shock

If you can, talk to someone about it but chat to doctor / nurse if you can as well

Hope DH gets better soon

BackforGood · 25/08/2017 21:58

Of course YANB overdramatic.
You will be in shock.
After something like that, all the "What ifs..." go through your mind.
You need to take care of yourself (+DH +DC)

thebigbluedustbin · 25/08/2017 22:00

That's not minor and your reaction is completely normal.

SandunesAndRainclouds · 25/08/2017 22:03

I was the first on the scene of a car accident a couple of years ago. Several people were injured, one seriously.

I was fine while I was there, fine when I got home and for the evening. Didn't sleep well and then the next day the enormity of it all walloped me hard. Your reaction sounds similar - once you start processing it all and the adrenaline drops off the shock starts.

Be kind to yourself and please talk to someone if the anxiety doesn't settle. I found mindfulness and square breathing very helpful for anxiety peaks.

ineedamoreadultieradult · 25/08/2017 22:06

It's the shock catching up with you. Perfectly normal. Be kind to yourself and if it is starting to affect your daily life, sleep etc see a doctor.

Onetedisbackinbed · 25/08/2017 22:13

Not unreasonable reaction at all. You've had a terrible shock and must have a lot of 'what ifs?' Be kind to yourself. We had a fire brigade advisory visit after a small fire at home (hadn't needed to call 999). It's free, you just call up the local station and they come and check your safety and give advice. I found it immensely reassuring

Onetedisbackinbed · 25/08/2017 22:13

Not unreasonable reaction at all. You've had a terrible shock and must have a lot of 'what ifs?' Be kind to yourself. We had a fire brigade advisory visit after a small fire at home (hadn't needed to call 999). It's free, you just call up the local station and they come and check your safety and give advice. I found it immensely reassuring

Whatsername17 · 25/08/2017 22:14

You've gone through a massive trauma. It happened yesterday. Give yourself some time to get your head around it. I completely understand the feeling, albeit in different circumstances. Christmas 2015 I had a scan at almost 11 weeks pregnant and found out the baby had died. It was Christmas eve the next day and we had tickets to the pantomime booked for dd, then aged 4. I needed the toilet and left dh and dd in the lobby. I came back and couldn't find them anywhere. Dh had taken dd downstairs to buy some sweets and a programme. In those few minutes I started sweating, I felt short of breath and sick to my stomach. The feeling of overwhelming doom came over me and I actually began thinking I was never going to see them again. It was a huge over reaction to them nipping downstairs to buy sweets whilst I was in the toilet. But, id had a huge shock 24 hours before and was terrified about what would happen when I started to miscary. The anxiety attack was caused by trauma. What you went through was awful, you will be ok and the shock will wear off. But, it's normal to feel as you do.Flowers

RollingGreenMarble · 25/08/2017 22:18

I was like this a couple of days after a car crash in which I amazingly walked out injury free from. it's shock. It'll get better and you're normal.

MimsyFluff · 25/08/2017 22:25

It's shock you'll feel better image week or so don't worry.

DH took the kids camping in the holidays set off at 10AM at 7PM I got a knock at the door to two police officers asking about my DC! I had a mini melt down turns out a child had ran away and they got my address as a mistake. Took an hour to calm down then went and told her mum where teenage kids like to hang out around here. I'm normally not a worrier but God that was terrifying.

Ttbb · 25/08/2017 22:58

Are you prone to anxiety:m/generally stressed out. I'm pretty much at breaking point and this would very much top me over the edge.

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