To not want to go round to my friends tomorrow

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Just for drinks/games etc. Bunch of mum's. I was up for it but now I feel like I just wanna chill out at home. I'll feel bad if I say I'm not going though.

You may perhaps find you feel a bit unwell tomorrow, and you wouldn't want to spread it around, so you could text apologising and hoping they all have fun..

Haha thanks. Good idea. I must be getting old!

I am often like this build something into something bigger and talk myself out of going! (Then sit there feeling sorry for myself that I'm always in!) could you go for an hour and see how you feel?

Sometimes the thought of these things are worse than the reality. You don't have to do anything you don't want to

This does head in. Every time a mum's night is planned so many drop out on the day. I just never expect them to actually go ahead any more.

Id go. Even if you drive and just show your face for a bit. It is a shame when people cry off. I know it's an effort but you've said yes.

I sometimes feel like this but I usually have a good time once I'm there. It's just the thought of getting ready to go!

I think it's really bad form to cancel without a good reason and 'can't be arsed' isn't a good reason

Your friend might have been really looking forward to it, bought snacks and drinks, cleaned the house (I especially hate the cleaning when hosting)

Often when one person bales it's a domino effect

Tbh, I would go. Come home early if you get there and don't enjoy it.

Fwiw, I have done two things this week, both of which I would've cancelled had it been possible. And both of which, with the benefit of hindsight, I really enjoyed!

Depends a bit how many are going I guess. If there are 2+ going, your friend isn't going to feel her efforts were wasted with one less.

What put me off a bit is that there are two others going who I don't get along with really.

Go! You'll have fun once you are there

You should go even for a short while. You might enjoy it! I hate it when people do this on mums nights/get togethers for no reason and send the generic "sorry, can't make it tonight, have a great time though" message. Most of the time they can make it, just don't want to!

If you think you aren't going to enjoy the evening, don't go!

Life's short, enjoy doing what you really want to do.

If you really wanted to go, you wouldn't have started this thread.

Your hosting friend will have spent the day tidying and bought in food and drinks.

It's kind of mean to drop out...

I feel like that a lot. I'm really introverted and, if left to my own devices, would likely never ever leave the house. However, when I'm dragged somewhere, I always find that I have a great time and am, pretty much every time, very glad that I went. Even when there are people I don't much get on with there.

Just my perspective.

I'm the same as J. Usually cba, am very introverted but can be the life and soul of the party once I'm actually there.

If you don't want to go then don't. Give as much notice as possible though.
I love love love being at home. It's my safe haven :)