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To drive home and leave him to it

6 replies

Magic79 · 24/08/2017 16:43

So I have been on holiday for nearly two weeks with our 3 dds. Dh iS only able to take a week off so joined us on Saturday. Mainly because he went away on a stag week earlier in the year. We are due to go home on Saturday.
The holiday cottage is OK and there is plenty to do in the area.
So this morning I get up and sort some laundry and pack the bag for the day and help youngest get dressed.
Dh sits and messes around on his tablet during this activity.
So dh drives us to an activity popular with Dd3. However he is in a bad mood right from the start and we end up leaving early to return to the cottage.
During the time at the park he left me with the youngest and more demanding child and he went off with the eldest.
Upon return he retired to bedroom for the last 2 hours to nap and eventually read whilst I pottered with dds.
To be honest this is the last straw. During the week so far I have done all the cleaning and tidying. The bulk of the care for Dd3. He always manages to go off ahead with the older ones when walk anywhere leaving me on my own with Dd3. Yesterday we were early for a table in a restaurant with a play area. He would rather hang around outside waiting for table than join me and Dd3 in soft play.
I am a Sah but really where is my holiday?
Aibu to wake up tomorrow morning and drive home and leave him to deal with all three kids for 24 hours.
When I challenge this behavior he is apparently tired from work and needs a rest .

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ShoutyMcShoutFace · 24/08/2017 16:46

YANBU and I feel your pain.

Collidascope · 24/08/2017 16:52

Have you pointed out that the stag week was his holiday, and that you were once again looking after his children while he was doing that?
Also, what's he like at weekends and when he gets home from work in the evening? Does he pull his weight then? Does he value the work you do as a sahm or think you're just messing about at home?
If he's consistently selfish, I'd definitely be heading home early tmoro and letting him bear some of the responsibility for his children and packing everything up.

TeeBee · 24/08/2017 16:53

Yeah, I had one like that. Note 'had'.

thatwouldbeanecumenicalmatter · 24/08/2017 17:02

In reply to the tired from work comment I'd say "yes so am I", I guarantee he'll say that what you do isn't tiring or some other such derisory woman's work bollocks. This is when you tell him if what I do is so easy crack on then, I'm off for a 2 hour nap/bath/whatever I goddamned please.

Magic79 · 24/08/2017 17:11

If I say so am I he won't respond.

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NoseyJosey · 24/08/2017 17:34

Maybe not go home, but 'pop' out for a while and see how he gets on. After all, he's had his nap and should be raring to go.

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