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Why are people so disgusting?

64 replies

Booboostwo · 24/08/2017 13:42

We have a one bedroom cottage next to our cottage where friends often stay when they come to visit (we live in sunny, holiday destination).

I just went into the cottage after our friends left. They stayed 10 days and it has been a few days since they left. I couldn't check earlier as I had to go away for an emergency and DH was left holding the fort.

I found:

  • a bag with rubbish including used toilet paper in the toilet. We have a perfectly serviceable toilet, you can throw in the usual toilet stuff but friends kept throwing their used toilet paper in bags. When they threw the first bag in our kitchen bin (boak!) we explained there was no need, but clearly they did not like our toilet.
  • a sheet with blood on it through to the mattress protector. Of course accidents happen, period, nosebleed, etc., but don't you try to dirty part immediately and tell someone so they can wash the sheet?
  • a dirty cutting board, because of course you leave that for some other sod to wash.
  • rubbish thrown directly in the kitchen bin with no bag so that someone has to reach in and clean it out (the rubbish bag provided was just above the bin and had not been used).

Isn't this disgusting? Should I give up on having friends over?

OP posts:
Sheitgeist · 24/08/2017 14:22

But Neutrogena having different standards doesn't mean you can leave someone else's property in a filthy disgusting state. That's just gross and rude.

We have a holiday apartment and don't let anyone else use it (apart from immediate family, like grown up DCs and my DPs) as it's abroad somewhere hot and it would be awful to arrive, months later, to some disgusting mess!

BoredOnMatLeave · 24/08/2017 14:24

I wouldn't treat a rental place like that, and certainly not a friends house. Don't have them again.

I am Shock that a 12 year old called your DH a fat wanker Angry

Crinkle77 · 24/08/2017 14:25

You know I would have been tempted to ask them leave after allowing their daughter to treat your husband so appallingly. That is shocking. More so than the loo paper thing.

BastardGoDarkly · 24/08/2017 14:25

Jesus Christ!? Your op was bad enough, but the update?! Shock

Arseholes.

Don't stop inviting friends (can I come?) just invite the ones that have been decent, and that you've had a nice time with before.

Will your continue a relationship with these disrespectful weirdos people?

Neutrogena · 24/08/2017 14:26

I agree that they should respect the 'rules' of the house and they sound like filthy animals.
However, I don't think they are 'bad' people. They just have different standards of hygiene and it's nothing to get in a tizz about.

Tanith · 24/08/2017 14:26

DH's aunt runs a business cleaning up after holiday lets. The tales she could tell of the muck people leave behind after just a week or two would make you vomit.

While we were staying with her, DH went to help out. She reappeared to change her clothes after about an hour having lifted a bag of rubbish that split and drenched her with maggots and the revolting putrid liquid they were rotting in.

Some people are utterly incapable of living like humans and think it's beneath them to clean up after themselves.

NannyHJ · 24/08/2017 14:27

Different standards? More like non existent standards. How horrid for you op.

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Booboostwo · 24/08/2017 14:28

The issues with their DCs have been ongoing so I suppose I am more immune to them! The eldest typically says "Is that all the money you're spending on me?" when she is given a gift and the youngest is allowed to spit at people, repeatedly and with no attempts to stop him because he is expressing himself.

The father is one of DH's best friends but I think this was the straw that broke the camel's back.

OP posts:
Oldraver · 24/08/2017 14:30

I take it you dont want them back ? I would be tempted to email them photos and ask them what the fucking score is

MrsJayy · 24/08/2017 14:30

They sound rude and disrespectful calling somebody a fat wanker is pretty horrible and not clearing up after yourself is showing your hosts you give no hoots about their feelings and house that you lived in which makes you an arrogant not very nice person.

MrsJayy · 24/08/2017 14:32

Jesus wept they are allowed to spit on people bugger me Shock

IloveBanff · 24/08/2017 14:32

What was said to the daughter after she called your DH a fat wanker? Did no one tell her off?

Leavingonajet · 24/08/2017 14:34

As others have said I lived somewhere where it would never be okay to put toilet paper in the loo and people just become habituated to putting in a bag. But that doesn't mean that leaving your house a mess is okay. Though it has to be said if you live in a country with live in staff people get pretty messy pretty quickly and just never think about tidying anything up.

FuckYouLinda · 24/08/2017 14:34

Well, they'll never get invited back again, eh?

MrsJayy · 24/08/2017 14:35

Dd had a summer job clearing up after holiday makers she said they were truly revolting she had to clean up human shite more than once from sides of accomodation

GeillisTheWitch · 24/08/2017 14:35

They sound like shit parents as well as disgusting slobs, I'd never want to see them or their little bastards delightful offspring again.

ShellyBoobs · 24/08/2017 14:36
Hmm
Lottapianos · 24/08/2017 14:38

Dear lord. You have been a saint to have these people in your life for as long as you have. They all sound foul. I would be absolutely done with the lot of them.

coffeekittens · 24/08/2017 14:38

Why are you friends with such maniacs? Cut all ties.

Willow2017 · 24/08/2017 14:45

Good God I would never want to see them again just for the shit parenting never mind the state they left your cottage in. What the freak is their house like?

Hope they are happy thier kids are 'those' kids everyone talks about and are pulled up at school for bloody awful behaviour. One spit and they wouldnt be over my door again!

Time to cut all ties OP and be honest, dont flannel it. Tell them they are gross and have raised brats and good luck with them but they are never coming near you again.

cluelessnewmum · 24/08/2017 14:47

Wow, definitely don't have them back. I'd be tempted to ask then to cover the cost of the cleaner as they've left it in such a mess but from what it sounds like I wouldn't expect them to give you anything.

I wouldn't let it stop you from having people to stay but I don't think it is unreasonable to ask people to pay upfront for the cost of cleaning after, it sounds like you've got a nice set up and good friends would understand that you don't want to have to clean afterwards.

StaplesCorner · 24/08/2017 14:54

I don't understand why you came to be "friends" with people like that, and why you had them to stay. Madness upon madness.

Never see them again. Obviously?

lljkk · 24/08/2017 15:02

That isn't really that bad, OP. Lots of people live in & create much more filthy conditions just as quickly.

Sounds like you would be better off setting up a rental charge situation with a cleaning deposit.

StrangeLookingParasite · 24/08/2017 15:04

I would have nothing to do with these rude filthy people ever again. They're disgusting.

FUNM · 24/08/2017 15:05

Being from "the islands" I guess old habits die hard, even on holiday - it is a cultural thing I expect they didn't give it a second thought. Of course by our standards it is unhygienic and unsanitary...

I used to work in a college where the 'foreign students' let's say, had very unsanitary toilet habits and never flushed nor left the cubicle cleaned up for the next person - the cleaner used to tell me horror stories Shock.
The students had lessons where they were taught cleanliness and basic hygiene - but I guess it took longer for some to get used to 'our ways' after a lifetime of doing it 'their way'.