Friend's falling over my ex

[inmyshoos]

Wtf is it with some women?? 'Friends'
Stbxh and I separated. No one has cheated or anything. I made the decision. Been unhappy for a long time. Tried marriage guidance etc.
Have watched while a few friends fall all over him to help. In any way they can. Female friends of mine. One can't hide her absolute disgust at me for calling it a day and talks about poor stbxh. How it's breaking HER heart.
Aibu to think it's none of her fucking business. My marriage. My life. My decision. What the hell??

She is no friend. She'll be with him next I reckon.

A friend siding with an ex of another friend is one of the scummist things you can do.

Are you saying they are not 'allowed' to be friends with him?
You made the decision: he may be finding it difficult to come to terms with & in those circs good friends/kind people would rally round.

Nothing wrong with being friends with both parties but if you do that you must hold back the desire to be judgemental.

Friend's yes. Siding with him fine. But telling all who will listen that it's breaking HER heart? That when she watched his kids come over and his face light up she almost cried? The man has every opportunity to spend as much time as he wants with his kids. The only person limiting it is himself.
She boils my piss.

Is she waiting to jump in there? Doesn't sound much of a supportive friend. I'd be telling her to butt out, she's in no position to tell people that. I'd be furious too

How it's breaking HER heart.

Do you think she's circling her prey?

Way too over invested, your friend that is. She should stay neutral.

Is he good looking? Sounds like they are on the prowl. Sometimes friendship gets forgotten if there is a crush involved as they paint you as the baddy and the crush as the poor innocent party that needs a bosom to rest his poor troubled head.

They aren't your friends. Protect your sanity and distance yourself. There are plenty of men in the world, she doesn't need to pursue her friends ex.

Sorry, yabu. If friends and family are expected to be happy and join the celebrations when people they care about get married, they are entitled to feel sad and upset when those people get divorced.

To your friends, you are dumping a perfectly nice bloke and splitting up your family for no obvious reason so their sympathies are going to be with him and your kids. Not saying you are wrong to make your decision, but your married friends are going to feel threatened by it, and your divorced friends will think they have put up with worse before making the split. So you are probably going to be the outsider for a while

Of course it may also be that one or more of your friends fancies your ex, or just that she is enjoying the emotional drama of the situation.