To ask about wedding plus one

[sadmonkey1]

Sorry if this has been asked a million times!

DP has been invited to wedding of a school friend whom I have yet to meet (they live quite far away). We have been together 3.5 years. It is just DP named on invitation.

Would it be extremely rude for him to ask whether this invitation includes me? Don't want to put friends in an awkward position by asking or assume the wrong thing. Asking on DP's behalf!

fatbottomed that sounds like my idea of heaven!

Coddi-yes a fuss was created resulting in neither my ex h nor his sibling attending.

Happytobefree- Yes they do, it's just down to logistics really, the fact we haven't met. I know the rest of his school crowd quite well

Fat bottomed girl- that sounds rather nice, a weekend to do your own thing staying in a hotel! Good job you noticed before the day itself though!

That's such a shame about people excluding step kids. I'd never heard of that attitude.

I think it's got to be cost related. I'd say it's a no though, otherwise you'd have been on the invite.

Ok then I think it's definitely rude unless there's a back story where you haven't made the effort to meet them.

Happytobefree- no, nothing like that at all, no reason for any bad feeling between me and the b&g.

To be honest, I'd thank my lucky stars if DH was invited to a wedding without me- I'd happily forgo worrying about sorting an outfit, travel, a gift and sitting through a service then reception for someone I only vaguely knew and let him trot off on his own.

This happened about 2 years ago and I had a chill day at home whilst he ate a cold Sunday roast at an old aquaintence's wedding. Since then, I've even made excuses so I didn't have to go with him 😳

Dinosaur - very fair point! I'm looking forward to it either way, tbh, chilled out weekend to myself or get pissed up party at the wedding

Why are you looking forward to it "either way"? There is no "either way"; you're not invited.

I'd expect to be named on the invite if I was invited. Although me and DP assumed our DD wasn't invited to one as she wasn't on the invite, but she was they just presumed we knew she could come. There's no harm in him confirming it with his friend.

I do think it's a bit rude, not to invite a long term partner though, but that's me. DP gets a lot of wedding invites (for some reason people who hardly know him, invite him) I've always been invited as well and we aren't married.