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AIBU?

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To go on holiday without DP?

9 replies

sailorcherries · 22/08/2017 22:16

My DP and I have been together 2.5 years, lived together for 2 years and have a 14 week old son. I also have a 7 year old from a previous relationship.

For the past two years DP and I have no been abroad/on holiday, as we were saving for a house and then had a newborn. Both years my DS has went abroad with my parents.

I've been quite vocal about wanting to take the kids on a family holiday next summer, possibly to a resort my parent's have been to with DS due to good recommendations.

My parents have said they'd like to go back and would like to go this once with us and they'd pay for DS7 and let him sleep in their room. This was all their idea and is incredibly generous. They will also pay the deposit just now as I am on mat leave and only receiving smp now, we will pay the full cost back to them.

DP has no issues going with my parents as we all get on, however he hates flying. He doesn't want to fly or go as he will need to fly. I've told him that I would just take the kids and go with my parents. He said he didn't mind and it means he can take his army reserve training days as annual leave and can get paid, as opppses to unpaid.

I'm now wondering if IABU to go abroad with the kids but without him?

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Madwoman5 · 22/08/2017 22:19

What's wrong with that? DP doesn't mind, parents don't mind. Enjoy!

sailorcherries · 22/08/2017 22:21

It feels weird planning a family holiday for 3/4 of the family, but I can't force him to come and he can't make the kids miss out. The cost of the holiday, for 10 days, is less than 1 week at Centre Parcs when you add it all up and so staying in the UK isn't financially feasible next year.

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TroelsLovesSquinkies · 22/08/2017 22:24

My Dh hates flying and staying in hotels, I've always taken the kids without him. Go and enjoy yourselves.

Redcliff · 22/08/2017 22:26

I've just got back from a trip with my kids and parents without my DH - if your all happy with it why not.

5rivers7hills · 22/08/2017 22:28

You're happy he's happy what's the issue ?

sailorcherries · 22/08/2017 22:29

Thanks everyone. I feel like he'll miss out on so much, which makes me feel bad.

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Allthebestnamesareused · 22/08/2017 22:31

What will happen if he is ever called up from the reserves and has to be deployed abroad!?

Writerwannabe83 · 22/08/2017 22:31

My DH has been abroad twice with our DS without me and are doing so again in October and it really isn't an issue. The peace and quiet is lovely. I bet your DP can't wait for you all to go Smile

sailorcherries · 22/08/2017 22:45

Allthebest that won't be my issue haha

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