To ask would you give up in my situation?

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TTC baby number 2 since last aug. TTC naturally for 6 months, failed IVF fresh cycle in December followed by failed frozen cycle in March. Back trying naturally.

Baby number 1 took 2.5 years, 1 failed IVF cycle and conceived on the frozen.

TTC number 1 totally killed our sex life. Now TTC number 2, the same shitty feelings of failure are back and we perform cause we have to.

Life feels on hold. Every time DH drinks I feel annoyed (issue is on his side and last time he quit booze for 3 months which resulted in a successful IVF cycle and DS). But equally I feel why shouldn't he/we have the odd drink when so many people do much worse and have kids?

We've now said we'll stop drinking from 1 September to go for IVF again in January. Means a dry Xmas too which is crap!

Sometimes feel like giving up but I'm 39 after Xmas and feels like time is running out.

Perhaps I'm just ranting! But thanks for listening.

Can you take a couple of months off? Two months won't really matter in the scheme of things but it might help you both relax a bit, enjoy each other and your child, and remember why you are doing this to begin with. (Note: I'm not saying 'relax and it'll happen'!)

It's so tough, good luck whatever you decide. Hope you get there in the end.

I think you both need to have a discussion about expections from each other, have a break from TTC, and lastly, don't loose hope. (Also, look into assisted hatching!)

Good luck 💐

In answer to your question, no I wouldn't give up in your situation.

Have you considered attending counselling sessions at the fertility centre? Lastly, check out the website/forumFertility Friends for advice and support from those in a similar position to you.

Thx both for answering. Feeling a bit better today but it goes like this - one day up and one day down! Hate the rollercoaster of TTC!