1yo Tantrums

[JanuaryOwl]

Did anyone else's DC's start having tantrums at 1 yo? DD turned one last month and she's getting worse and worse.

Just now she tried to get my phone off me, I said here have this (a toy) and she slapped me repeatedly in the face. So I firmly said no and put her down on the floor, so she runs over to the TV and repeatedly smacks it, screaming!

I'm at a loss, she either slaps me or laughs when I'm firm and screams even more if I try to distract her!

No she asked for advice about tantrums.

She mentioned one example about her DD trying to get the phone, and and people seem to have decided that means OP doesn't pay enough attention to her DD/OP is always on her phone.

She mentioned that the remotes are kept on the windowsill - i.e. out of the toddler's reach - and people seem to have decided that means this child's life is all screens all the time. OP hasn't said anything which suggests that to me. I actually think keeping the remotes out of reach shows a level of good sense not often displayed in AIBU.

So can we please reserve all the judgment-based-on-nothing, and actually work with the information, the facts, that we have? Which is that she's having trouble with tantrums, and what should she do?

Well there's only been one or two wanker posts so that's not too bad for aibu.

Op no one can really advise as each child is unique but general advice is distract, keep them busy, model good behaviour yourself so keep calm and cool and try to avoid the trigger for your child.

Really holding the hands and saying 'ah gentle' agree that works really well and stops our dgc from poking the dog to stroking.

Lol my one year old is the same. Flings himself backwards and screams if he can't have something/climb something/is told no. My older two were similar. It is just them expressing frustration as they can't tell you any other way.

I love the judgy comments. We rarely have the TV on at home yet my one year old still knows the remote does something and wants it all the time. Little ones have always been interested in phones and remotes, that's why they make the ones (not that are interested in those!).

Toy ones*

I must be a shit parent too. My nursery must also be shit because shock horror they have a phone as part of their "home corner"

Ds is entirely disinterested in his own toua and wants literally everything I've got. It's not the attention he just wants the item will crawl off with it then come back to get whatever else I've got. He does it while were out or in company as well so it's not lack of stimulation. I think he just thinks oh what's mummy got and if it's harmless I will let him look at it or play with it but obviously have to say no sometimes. He will kick off throw himself on the floor scream and hit and cry. He doesn't calm down even if I pick him up. I usually just let him cry it out and he's fine a few minutes later. I try keep things he can't have out of his sight to avoid it.

Hope we miss out on terrible two's we've already has our fair share of tantrums.

My 11 month old wants all the things she can't have, phones, remotes, hot drinks, the door on the wood burner, toilet roll, etc.

She wails if you don't let her have them but removal and distraction works ok at the moment.

We've also had to wall mount the TV because of the touching and slapping, not in anger/tantrum but because when it's off it's reflective and she's fascinated!

We try to keep things she shouldn't have out of reach and out of sight, but if she spots them she wants them.

A friend was saying that 'no' worked for her from about one, I have an inkling that DD might be a bit older before that works for us, she seems much more advanced physically (she's walking more than crawling indoors), than verbally (still no words, or even 'dada' 'mama' consistently in context).

Advice I've had ranges from 'babyproof everything' to 'just tell her no', I think we're going to go with babyproofing things that are actually dangerous and saying no with the small stuff. PFB though so probably in for a rude awakening!