Fiancé wants to move in

[notsosupermam]

Hiya, just after some advice really please as I really don't know what to do for the best here. I've been with my fiancé for 2 years, engaged for 1 and we are planning to get married next year. Anyway, we don't live together as yet, I live alone with my 5 year old dd and 13 yr old ds.

He would like to move in with us and that's where the problem lies. I work part time and claim working and child tax credits, although I do plan on finding full time work when dd is a bit older.

Due to his earnings I would probably lose all of my tax credits when he moves in and I want to work out how is fairest to split bills, etc. Also is it really unfair of me to expect df to help me cover any of the losses of tax credits incurred until I find full time work?

Any help is gratefully received, thank you in advance.

Surely the answer is simple? You split the bills and rent 50:50 so what you're losing in tax credits should more than be made up for with what he's contributing to the household. I'm not sure why that's so hard to figure out, or am I being dense?

No to splitting bills 50/50 if you earn £15k and he earns £80k.

Plus she has expenses for her children, that needs to be ironed out too.

You need an honest chat about the money you will lose and what his contribution is going to be.

Have you tried actually discussing this with him?