I've name changed for this as my name suggests as this is quite outing.
A few months ago there was an incident which I witnessed between two of my neighbours (A and B). I can't say too much because there's a police investigation going on and pending court date, but basically it ended with B deliberately As house and car in front of As 10 year old and my daughter who's 2 also witnessed the incident. It was quite violent, but no-one was hurt or threatened.
I gave my statement to the police and allowed a specialist officer to go into my DDs nursery to write an Impact Statement with her Keyworker as after witnessing the incident my DD became withdrawn and her behaviour changed - she lashed out at other children, she's non verbal due to a condition so she couldn't explain the behaviour and we can only assume it was due to the incident that her behaviour was as it was, she also didn't sleep well or would wake in the night screaming. As I have to live between A and B I said I didn't want to stand up in court and give evidence. (A lives opposite me and B lives next door).
Due to the delay in the polices response Bs friend came to the houses and tried to clean up aka cover for his friend and hid the two crucial bits of evidence. So it looks like B will get away with what he did.
A and I were good friends before the incident, going for coffee at each others houses, swapping childcare, buying each other and each others children Christmas and birthday presents etc. - you get the idea. Since the incident A only wants to talk about what's happened, tells me what other people know about B and his past or talking about other incidences that Bs involved in. It's even started to be every message she sends me now is "i've head Bs been saying x and y about us".
Now I understand its traumatizing, I understand she wants justice and I don't expect her to just move on. But I do find it tiring. I know I'm the only witness and the only person that fully knows what happened, but she talks about it in front of both children, and I'm worried that DD will remember and will regress back to her previous behaviour - it took 2 months of work and reassurance from me and DDs Keyworker to get back to how she was before the incident and it has stalled her progress. I cannot go through that worry again.
I don't want to be rude and tell A that she talks about it a lot, but attempts to change the subject last seconds before shes back on about B. I'm worried that when B does get let off that A will completely breakdown and try and lean on me. It's got to the point she keeps asking me if I've seen B on our road, because he's not allowed on our road due to his bail conditions. A keeps talking about moving but won't go until Bs hearing. A's son does tell his mum to "shut up about it now" which suggests he wants to forget and move on but she ignores him or says "I just want to say this..." and it's another 10 minutes of information about B, I think I now know everything about B.
WIBU to distance myself from A? Or do I need to accept that this is my friendship with A now due to shared experience?