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To say DFriend is okay to rearrange interview?

39 replies

BlueIsYou · 22/08/2017 08:29

I'm really rooting for her - it was such a good prospect and she would love the job.

One tiny issue = she's her sister's birthing partner and sister is now in labour.

AIBU to say they should be fine with rearranging in these circumstances?! She sounds so gutted over the phone Sad

Interview is in an hours time so she won't make it, needless to say.

DFriend thinks that's it and I could hear acceptable of 'it is what it is' in her voice. But I don't think it has to be like this, does it?

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zeebeedee · 22/08/2017 08:31

she can only ask - at the moment she thinks the opportunity is gone, so she will be no worse off if they say no, but still have a chance if they say yes.

They don't have to agree to it, but it doesn't hurt to ask.

Ceto · 22/08/2017 08:32

She has nothing to lose by asking. Whether she will be OK depends on a lot of unknowns: most employers would be OK with it, but if, say, they've set up an interview panel specifically for today it may be more difficult to get it together another time to suit the convenience of one candidate.

WhatToDoAboutThis2017 · 22/08/2017 08:32

Depends how flexible they are. An hours notice is not a lot of time and it won't look good for her, regardless of reason.

She may well get another interview, but they will already have first impressions of her which aren't good and it could easily hinder the interview.

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BlueIsYou · 22/08/2017 08:34

zeebee I will tell her this. Do you think she'll be okay to tell them the actual truth of why she can't make today's time?

It's an NHS role so maybe different with regards to their timing and they might have to make a decision by today I would assume Sad

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BlueIsYou · 22/08/2017 08:35

WhatTo I know an hours notice isn't great but surely the circumstances change the first impression since you cannot predict when baby will arrive?

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Cowbella · 22/08/2017 08:37

We would rearrange too, nothing to lose by asking!

WhatToDoAboutThis2017 · 22/08/2017 08:37

BlueIsYou Whatever the reason, the workplace is being put out and that's all they'll take away from this; that she wasn't there when she said she would be, she let them down.

Even if they think it's a good enough reason, the lasting impression is not great.

honeysucklejasmine · 22/08/2017 08:38

She definitely needs to ask - either way she should contact them, as she needs to let them know she can't come.

Pawsbutton · 22/08/2017 08:39

I'm sorry, I think it's too late to cancel...

Crunchymum · 22/08/2017 08:39

Labour can last a long time? How far in is the sister?

Outnotdown · 22/08/2017 08:42

Am I crazy to say she should do the interview? She could be with the sister within, say, three hours? She could be in labour for a long time. Unless she's already at the hospital with the sister?

Ladyformation · 22/08/2017 08:42

I'd rearrange too if a candidate called in those circumstances. She should definitely be honest.

frazmum · 22/08/2017 08:42

My DH arrived for an interview and 5 mins before he went in I phoned to tell him I was in labour and time was short (number 4). He explained he'd have to reschedule and they were great about it. If the company are difficult about it - would you really want to work for them?

PoohBearsHole · 22/08/2017 08:56

Regardless, you would assume she would call to let them know she wouldn't be attending? if she just doesn't turn up there is no chance. phone to say i'm unable to attend due to x would it be possible to reschedule?

Figment1234 · 22/08/2017 08:58

Of course she should ask them to rearrange. Of course she can explain the reason. But it's now 9am so she needs to make that call NOW!

ComputerUserNotTrained · 22/08/2017 09:02

We'd be cool with it, especially if she phoned ahead (even at short notice).

longestlurkerever · 22/08/2017 09:05

I've done a lot of interviewing and at our place it might not be a problem to rearrange - if the interviews are taking place over several days HR can often just rejig things and the actual interview panel may never know. On the other hand, if it's not possible, she's lost the chance - it is a good reason, but I would have rung earlier in the week and explained the circumstances and asked what the options would be if there ended up being a clash as it gives a better impression then dropping it in without warning. But it's too late now. I might be inclined to do the interview and turn up a bit late to the birth but it depends how far along her sister is.

CotswoldStrife · 22/08/2017 09:40

It may not be possible to get the interview panel together again, regardless of the reason for cancelling. It's not about the company being difficult Angry the interviews are usually just arranged for the one day.

Ameliablue · 22/08/2017 09:43

It depends on the interviewers but if they are not willing to rearrange they probably won't be very good people to work for.

2014newme · 22/08/2017 09:45

We'd rearrange if we could but if we saw a candidate today we could offer to we wouldnt rearrange your friends interview.

longestlurkerever · 22/08/2017 09:46

It totally depends on how keen they are to find the best candidate and how difficult it would be to get the panel together again. If they're tripping over good people for the role they'll probably just think "ah well, one fewer interview". If though it's quite niche they'll be sorry to miss out on potentially finding the most suitable candidate and rearrange.

EC22 · 22/08/2017 09:49

It couldn't be arranged at my work regardless of reason but no harm
In asking. If it's a first baby she could be ages?

Minkyfluffster · 22/08/2017 10:01

Completely different but I broke the key in my front door after nipping to the shop to buy milk about 1.5 hours before an interview, I was in my scruffs as all I needed to do was put make up on then suit but wanted a cup of tea before leaving.

I was honest, the locksmith said he would be at least an hour so I wouldn't make it. I called company, they were really nice, rearranged and even got my potential future manager to call me back to say it was ok. I got the job.

ADishBestEatenCold · 22/08/2017 10:05

"Do you think she'll be okay to tell them the actual truth of why she can't make today's time?"

Of course she should tell them the truth. Why would she not?

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