So I know I'm being unreasonable here but I really need a good rant and for some people to tell me to calm down.
So I will freely admit that I have never liked my MIL because she is unbearably annoying. She is loud, stupid and, rude and she never stops talking! On top of that she is extremely sensitive to the point where you can't even contradict her or express a different opinion. In the past she has gotten annoyed with me for not joining in when she has butcher abyone out. This is all unpleasant enough in itself but I am the diametric opposite. I am very quiet, I don't talk much, I have excessive noise and I am quite thick skinned (or maybe obtuse is a better word). So I have never liked being around her. But I have always done my best to be polite and friendly. Of course this has on occasion descended to me just being very quiet and ubengaged (if she particularly got on my nerves because I was tired for example). But so far so good, I didn't dislike her and it wasn't too unpleasant being around her.
Baring in mind that her husband has been quite abusive to her, not to mention she has had a hard time of things. I really do try to temper my reactions given that, after everything she's put up with, it's not unexpected that she might be a little mad.
BUT as time has gone on she has become increasingly unpleasant to deal with. While before she would just sulk or maybe start crying if I did something she didn't like she will now often descend into accusing me of all kind of horrible (completely unfounded) things (like being cruel to my three year old son for weaning him off the bottle for example-don't worry, he was already weaned long before this). Sometimes she will do this while screeching (literally screeching) at the top of her lungs. She has also said things like I don't like to see you do xyz about various parenting decisions (like not allowing my son to have everything that he wants the second that he wants it). I am generally quite quick to respond to such things and it took a lot of effort to bite my tongue instead of pointing out that her feelings were irrelevant. I really had tried everything. First I tried reasoning. Then I tried keeping my mouth shut. Then she started bad mouthing me to my husband. He got angry and I snapped. So I tried avoiding her but unfortunately I ran into her on the street. She, as I noted above, is quite stupid and can't take very obvious hints. So after she started pestering me and tried to engage me in an argument in the street I just told her to stop harassing us and stalked off. She was so furious that she left the country. She is back this evening and through an unfortunate accident will be spending the night in our house. Her expectation after these outbursts (which are frequent and indiscriminate) is that everyone pretends that nothing ever happened. But I am still very annoyed and don't want to deal with it right now. My husband has given me a carte Blanche to do as I please which isn't helpful. Would it be so unreasonable just to retire the moment she arrives?
Sorry that was so long.