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AIBU to pay for everyone except for one bridesmaid?

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user1471516536 · 21/08/2017 20:01

Hi,
I am getting married in October and originally only my hair and makeup was going to be done professionally, with family members and bridesmaids doing their own.
Recently my sister/ Maid of Honour asked to have her hair done professionally as well and I agreed because we fall out easily and I want things to go well on the day.
Then my Mum and Granny asked for their hair to be done as well.
However, one bridesmaid- my sweet and lovely friend- is getting ready with us. Should I pay for her to have her hair done too? She wouldn't mind if I didn't and I would be happy to do her hair myself. It would be helpful if one of us could do her hair since then more than one person can get ready at a time.
On the other hand, it seems really mean if everyone gets their hair done professionally except one person.

WWYD?

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bigbluebus · 21/08/2017 20:35

I can maybe understand why your family members want to have their hair done professionally - and I assume by the same hairdresser that you are using, but why are you paying for it? Is this a thing now. The more I read on here about weddings the more I breathe a sigh of relief that I got married nearly 30 years ago!

bimbobaggins · 21/08/2017 20:36

I don't understand why you are paying for your mother and grandmother. I know they are important but they aren't part of the bridal party like bridesmaids/best man so they should be paying for themselves

user1471516536 · 21/08/2017 20:36

It's ok, I'm paying, don't worry.

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Billben · 21/08/2017 20:38

Please do not leave her out. She might not say it but she will feel awful about it believe me. And if she is such a sweet and lovely friend then you shouldn't even be asking this question.

user1471516536 · 21/08/2017 20:39

I can afford one more. I live in the midlands and after some googling I've found someone offering £30 pp for bridesmaids + free trial so I can manage fine.

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KitKat1985 · 21/08/2017 20:52

I'm glad you've decided to do it. I think leaving her out would be very awkward.

Fluffypinkpyjamas · 21/08/2017 21:01

Of course you must pay for her. Why would you even dream of leaving her out?

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