to be pi**ed off with DH for going out AGAIN

[micegg]

Can you feel the rage??

DH goes out at least twice a week with work friends which depsite being the case for the whole time we have been together, has suddely started to grate now we have a DD (18 mon)which means I am literally left holding the baby and ranting on MN. He who shall not be named got in at midnight last night and promised he would be home 'early' (but unspecified time) tonight. I cant bring myself to be the nagging wife and ring him but I am SO sick of spending every friday by myself. Is 2 nights a week excessive or am I being unreasonable and am I unreasonable that the fact its a friday night bothers me so much? He has a better social ife than me (more friends ) and claims he only takes up about half the offers to go out. Like thats meant to make me feel better. Rant over. Going to stomp off into other room......

You are not being unreasonable.

He could be a bit more considerate. Do you have friends that you can go out with? Or just go for a walk or a drive or something to get you out of the house?

It would not be unreasonable of him to go out a couple of times a week if you were going out a fair amount of time too.

I never go out because I have no friends within 100 miles or so of where I live. He goes out at least once a week, sometimes twice, rarely three times, but it happens.

It is excessive and i would be royally pissed off if i was you.
Unfortunately when a baby comes along men's lives change very little ( mainly cos we let them get away wwith it) wheras a womans life changes 100%.
He should limit his going out and spend time with you.
Why should you be stuck in every Friday on your own?
You are entitled to a socila life too.

Thanks. I feel better just for having some MN backing. I do go out but probably only about once a fortnight. This is mostly because I am a bit of a home bird and can't be doing with it all. Just really peeves me off that he always goes out on a friday. In truth he often goes out more then twice a week. Grrrrrrrrrrrrr

Not entirely in agreement, you can't really blame him for your lack of activity. I bet he'd be happy to stay in if it meant you were out enjoying yourself - it's not illegal to go to the cinema by yourself. I think the Friday night issue is a bit rude of him but he won't know unless you tell him. I also think you should find something to do at least one evening a week, maybe a class or a club or something, it's good for you! You wouldn't have time to resent him so much and you might make some new friends.

My DH is out Mons and Thursdays and I have yoga early on Friday evenings and usually find something to do on a Tues or Wednesday (eg singing workshop, committee mtg, nappy network pub night, NCT mtg). This has been the case since DS was a couple of months old.

agree with buckets...nothing stopping you going out ! i go out two or three times a month,organise a baby sitter, and go out with girlfriends, NCT things, or whatever else...stops the feelings of resentment !

Why does Friday night bother you so much?

I think it is fine for him to go out two nights a week as long as you also get to go out that often if you want. If not there is a big unbalance.