My youngest DS has an appointment coming up that I can't really take his older brother to. A while ago my friend offered to have DS1 for a couple of hours while I went to this appointment. It's this week, so I messaged her this morning to check we were still on and she is bewildered. She thought it was a different day, she has to do [insert completely bloody non-urgent task here] on the actual day of the appointment.
From her message she clearly thinks we collectively have got ourselves muddled, rather than her cocking up all on her own, and she doesn't feel at all obliged to rearrange the other thing she's double-booked herself for. She could even take my DS along with her if she chose, it really is a trivial thing she's doing.
(We definitely, definitely arranged things for the correct day when we originally spoke - I remember the conversation. I would never have done it for the day she thinks it is, as we're away then!)
I hardly ever ask for help - I hate leaning on people, which she knows. This is the first time I've asked a favour all year. I've made myself available at short notice to get her kids from school when she's been running late so it's not like I don't reciprocate. Her DC are 'official best friends' with my eldest and she claims to adore him - plus he's almost alarmingly quiet and compliant (promise I'm not deluded about this), so it's not like he's going to tear up her house or anything. Him and her eldest are both little professor types who usually disappear upstairs and geek out about insects or Lego. So I honestly don't think she's feeling pressured or overburdened by me. She either couldn't be arsed writing the date down and forgot, or has since decided she can't be arsed helping.
AIBU to think that if you offer someone a favour, you make a genuine effort to see it through? I've got no family nearby, nor does she - I thought we could rely on each other but it's starting to feel one-sided.