Wedding Help!

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Got myself in a panic reading all these 'worst weddings' threads. I'm getting married very very soon and have only had 2 months to plan it. If I give a run down of the day, can you tell me if you would be happy to have attended?? Or is there things I can change?!

Invites had no request for gifts or money, just simply invited to the wedding and a party afterwards.
2pm:
Wedding in local church that has a little play area (think toy kitchen and a few toys) down the side. Childminder will be stationed there so any kids can play whilst the ceremony is happening.
The church is used for a playgroup during the week and is very family friendly. The vicar doesn't mind any noise etc

After the ceremony there will be Tea, coffee, water, juice and danishes served down the other side of the church. (There's little tables and chairs for people to sit, very relaxed setting!)
This will be happening whilst the photographs are being taken. Photographer has a list of people's names and what photos are required so is just going to call people outside as they're needed. Photos should last about 45 minutes.

Party from 4:30pm:
Then onto the party. It's in a social club, glass of bubbly/water/wine/orange juice on arrival and straight in for the buffet! It's serve yourself, all the usual cold buffet stuff as well as three hot options. There's a dessert station and a candy bar.
The music played through this bit is just a quiet playlist of our own choosing. Our DS has SEN and can't bare loud music, so we're not having a DJ just sorting it ourselves so we can control the volume. Plus, we'd like people to be able to chat whilst they're eating!

After the food there will be a few very short speeches, then music and some little games for the kids there (there will be a few!) there's a bar as well.

Then an hour or so before the venue shuts we're having a load of pizza delivered for people to eat/take home with them.

Wedding favours are little 'Thank your for attending' cards, with an Autism charity badge pinned to it. (DS1 is autistic)

There's about 80-100 guests, the buffet is for 100 so I'm not too worried about not having enough food! Just worried it's too informal having a buffet?

Is there anything you'd change about this?!

Sounds ideal!

Sounds lovely! Had DD's christening recently and had an unlimited tea/coffee station which people loved, cost us £20, for those driving/non drinkers

We didn't have speeches, cutting of the cake or a sit down dinner and because there wasn't a formal structure, everyone was much more relaxed.

We also only had a hot and cold buffet. We had 150 guests but catered for 200. We had so much food left over that the person who ran the bar at our venue took all the leftover fruit and veg to the animal shelter and the food to the homeless shelter.

Hope you have a great day!

This sounds very similar to my dbro wedding a few years back and it was lovely. It was all held in their church hall, a simple ceremony, a buffet, a bit of quiet music and everyone was home by 9pm. It did not cost them the earth like my wedding did either.

You haven't mentioned wedding cake?

It sounds absolutely lovely.

Have a brilliant day congratulations.

Right now I'm in the middle of a divorce but even I couldn't help myself but love your wedding plans. It sounds so thoughtful and fun. And so do you.

Sounds like you have it all covered.
maybe take some of the big head phones with a soft music tape your child likes in case the talking is too much for them.

Enjoy your day.

I think you have pitched it exactly right, especially at such short notice. I really hope you all have a lovely day and the weather is good for you.

This is how we are having our wedding!! I much prefer a buffet to a sit down meal with bored staff wandering around with mediocre food.
We're also doing our own music as I hate Djs with a passion, talking over music and taking ridiculous requests

I love it . Sounds like a most relaxing perfect day.
Been to a couple of weddings recently where we were called to sit down lavish meal at 6pm and we did not get up from table until 10.30 pm between speeches and courses .
Just love your idea .

Wishing you all the best

It sounds fabulous, not too much farting about for anyone and not a bridezilla in sight which is a real achievement. I think it's a great unpressurised ceremony which all can enjoy - exactly the right approach. Good luck and congratulations.

Oh, and .

This sounds lovely and I would be delighted to be at a wedding like this! Best of luck, I hope you have a great day.

I love this, well done. I work in the wedding business and do about 100 a year. At least half of them are buffets and I've never heard anyone complain.
In fact, I did one yesterday ,which was a buffet and the b&g said that people had the option about presents BUT only presents which added to the day.
So, people bought table decs, favours, speciality foods and someone even sponsored a bus to take everyone home.
The b&g were on a tight budget and the guests and their presents made the day complete,

There won't be any bridezilla posts about your wedding. It sounds fab, and you are very thoughtful about your guests.

Far too many brides to be think about nothing else other than themselves and you are a shining example of what a bride to be should be like.

May you both have a long and happy marriage

I think it sounds very thoughtful. The best weddings I've been to have been the ones where the bride and groom have designed a day that considers other people. You've really put together what should be a fun wedding for the whole family. Having a childminder in the church is genius! Hope you have a wonderful day and it marks the start of a long and happy marriage.

Love the fact that you've thought about looking after your guests whilst the photos are taken. Hope it doesn't rain but if it does your plan will be really appreciated. The rest sounds equally great. A buffet stops the fussy eaters moaning! Hope you have a lovely day and an even better future!

Sounds wonderful!

Do make sure there really is enough food though, especially hot food. Hot food is always the most popular and all of the buffets I've been to have run out of hot food very quickly before all of the guests have had chance to have some (leaving the rest feeling a bit p'd off)! If people have had to travel a long way they will be really hungry too and might eat more than you expect!

Brilliant. Love the sit down while photos..

Obv check ds's clothes soft, no labels...

Sounds just right to me. And very like ours. We didn't do sit down either.

I think it sounds lovely!

I've been at weddings where the and or DJ were so loud no one could talk inside and it just ruins the atmosphere

Have a wonderful day

That sounds great. You sound thoughtful and your guests will appreciate it

My sister had a beautiful wedding. It was in a barn and sit down meal etc. Bridesmaids, pageboys, doves - the whole shabang!

Whereas I got married in a registry office with mum and MIL, then back home for a bbq! Garden all decked out pretty with gazebos, white table clothes, flowers on tables etc.

Whatever you choose to do, it's YOUR day.
I think it sounds lovely.

OP, sounds like the perfect wedding day. Congratulations and best wishes.

If it's a hall, are you permitted to do decorations the day before and arrange clean up the day or two after? My advice is don't leave yourselves anything to do on the day, because you'll both be busy enough getting yourselves + DS ready and there.

OP it sounds lovely and so many thoughtful elements like the toys for the kids. I would love to go to a wedding like this. Wishing you all the best