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Cheeky BBQ guests

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stargazer2030 · 20/08/2017 23:21

I don't know if IABU but had a family BBQ tonight. I accidentally invited a cousin as I used an old WhatsApp thread. I didn't realise she was on the thread and wouldn't have invited her but she was on and replied saying she was coming. Fair enough - thought it might be nice as not seen her for a while. We used to be really close but just not seen her for ages.
She rocked up fairly drunk with her partner and 2 kids - they had been to the pub already - ate non stop - literally piling plates every time food came came out( she did bring her own booze - about 6 cans between her and partner - literally enough for a short stay). They both ate more food than everyone else put together. After 2 hours as the food was drying up they announced we are going now anyway - bye!
I was gob smacked and am really annoyed. Lesson learned and it won't happen again but aibu in thinking there are some cheeky fuckers around.I would never normally even notice but it was really blatant tonight. What made it even worse is that her partner referred to a recent party they had that none of us were invited to.

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stargazer2030 · 22/08/2017 00:34

We are not stingy with food by any means and always over cook. I want people to eat and drink and enjoy themselves but this was another level. I can only describe it as power eating.
My family definitely aren't the ones to nibble on a chicken leg while nursing a glass of wine. I have never noticed before what people eat just making sure there is a steady supply.
A few other people have commented today so it wasn't just me. My sister said that at one point she had to stop her taking the whole tray of meat dh had just cooked. Instead of helping herself from it and letting others do the same she was actually intending just to take it to share it with her partner.
The second second he took a break from cooking they announced they were going. It was still very early, they live within walking distance and the kids wanted you stay so it did feel they were just there to trough.

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LaurieFairyCake · 22/08/2017 00:40

just there to trough

I literally don't understand this Confused

Are they poor? Is food rationed at home?
What's so special about your food they ate more than normal Confused

Didn't they just come over, eat a normal amount for them, and then leave. Yes they ate more than others but some people do.

Bahhhhhumbug · 22/08/2017 01:05

How much can people eat though seriously before being full , a couple of plates full at most ? I too think you only noticed because you didn't want them there. Also a family of four are going to consume a lot. Maybe the parents were getting enough for the kids along with theirs or something. I can't bear score keeping at these things. Last one l went to DH had brought a huge tray of kebabs he had made and also six bottles of beer ( he drank three at most ). I went in the kitchen later on where all the drinks were on a table and thought ld have a g&t. Two friends were in the kitchen and one practice tical lynne snatched the gin bottle out my hand and said 'we brought that' Ironically they were both eating kebabs dh had brought. Not been to one since put me rIght off.

Bahhhhhumbug · 22/08/2017 01:06

practically

PyongyangKipperbang · 22/08/2017 01:37

It is sounding more and more like they had the post pub munchies and were using yours to fill up.

On what planet does anyone think it is ok to take a whole tray of meat cooked for a party full of people, just for themselves?! I refuse to believe that the "I dont see the problem" people would honestly not be at least shocked by that, even if they didnt say anything at the time.

AIBU is getting more contrary just for the sake of being argumentative by the day.......

WicksEnd · 22/08/2017 03:23

YANBU. I can't understand the replies on here and think people must just be being deliberately goady or have friends and family with no manners.
You should always be mindful not to be a greedy fucker wh n it's shared food with a group and ensure there's enough for everyone rather than getting a weeks worth of meat down your neck.

Roussette · 22/08/2017 06:13

I may sound a bit Hyacinth Bouquet here but it's all about manners isn't it?
Bloody rude to just guzzle everything in sight. I'm not stingy by any stretch of the imagination but honestly.... when family/friends come here for a bbq you pass round a big kebab for everyone, a couple of sausages each, a burger and by this time with all the salads, potatoes, breads etc most people are saying no no. But if I had family there who were literally eating everything in sight, I'd think it was really rude and that they weren't thinking about the person cooking this lot or other guests and what they might want to eat.

It's just GREEDY and it's like people in buffets getting plate after plate after plate like pigs at a trough.

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