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Little brat broke my gate!

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WoofWoofMooWoof · 20/08/2017 20:16

Ugh, I'm so pissed off Angry. One of the neighbourhood kids (B for brat) used to come into my garden early in the morning before the DC and I were up, and make a complete mess of my garden. Destroying the DCs toys, wrecking my plants etc. I banned him from my garden, and always keep the gate locked. A few month ago I had to pay to have the gate repaired as the neighbourhood boys keep climbing on it (tall wooden gate).

This afternoon I went into my garden and the neighbours tell me that B has broken my gate trying to climb into my garden. And true thing - the top of the gate is smashed to bloody smithereens (supporting wooden beam) - the gate is unsteady and will probably fall over. I found out where B lives and went over to have a word with his parents. I told him mum her son broke my garden gate, and the first thing she says is: so what do you want me to do about it? I told her it needs to be fixed. She says she's skint, but will come around to have a look. Which of course she never did, and probably never will, if what the other neighbours have to say about her is anything to go by. WIBU to 1. Have someone around to fix it and send her the bill. 2. Tell her that if I ever catch her little brat near my garden again I will report him to the police for trespassing (he's 10 years old). According to her he's broken all her stuff as well. FFS, surely I shouldn't have to pay every time her brat decides to break my gate/furniture/plants/DCs toys etc.

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Eragonsegg · 21/08/2017 00:18

Rogue "no or" in my post. Please ignore!

WorraLiberty · 21/08/2017 00:23

You need CCTV which is quite cheap in many shops/online now.

Also, I know being held in a queue when you ring 101 is annoying, but 10 minutes is nothing. It's an average of about 20 here during quiet times (Monday to Friday mornings are quietest).

Ask them to provide you with an email/phone number to put you directly through to your area's SNT (Safer Neighbourhood Team) and you should get a much better result and more 'personal service' that way.

GreenTulips · 21/08/2017 00:29

Yes to anti climb paint and CCTV - it's not something you'd want to miss!

StickThatInYourPipe · 21/08/2017 00:32

What it anti climb paint?! Sounds amazing haha

GreenTulips · 21/08/2017 00:34

It doesn't dry so climber gets covered in black sticky tar like crap, ruins clothes.

BlessYourCottonSocks · 21/08/2017 02:27

Please listen to stormy! I would ask a police officer to do a criminal damage report- as to deter their horrible child from damaging your property- then have it repaired and the bill sent to brats mother.

They are a police officer and are giving you free advice. I would hold off on the paint until you've spoken to the police at least.

Fuckit2017 · 21/08/2017 02:35

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stormytherabbit · 21/08/2017 11:45

Hi OP- any luck with reporting the incident?

londonmummy1966 · 21/08/2017 11:56

The Mun either does not give a toss and let's her child get away with everything. Which will get worse as he gets older.

Or there are other issues going on and she does not know what to do anymore.

This - either way you should report it - either she'll be told that she needs to start giving a toss or it might be the trigger that leads to her getting some help. Or at least we can live in hope.

Nuttynoo · 21/08/2017 12:00

Fence spikes. Anti-burgler paint (that stains hands for weeks at a time). Maybe some blackberry bushes or something just as thorny planted along the whole border of the fence.

TDHManchester · 21/08/2017 12:14

How old is the brat and why does he think he can trespass on your property? is it a communal area? is the property rented from a housing assoc or is it private rented or mortgaged?

If rented via HA /social landlord, take it up with housing officer. If private get gate fixed, send her the bill. If hse doesnt pay send notice before action letter then hit MCOL. Claims up to £500 cost £35 to lodge. If she doesnt defend then she loses and will have a CCJ up her lazy backside to think about

WoofWoofMooWoof · 21/08/2017 16:51

TDH - he's 10, and no, it's my private garden, of a privately rented flat.

It did seem from the look on the mother's face that she's given up on him, but guess what? He shouldn't bloody be everyone else's problem because she can't be bothered any more!

One of the PCSOs who works with our team came into my office today and I asked his advice as well. He said that 10 is the age of criminal responsibility, and I absolutely would not be wasting police time, as it's easier to nip this sort of behaviour in the bud now than it would be later on. He approved of me doing the online report last night. I have a CAD ref number, now just to wait for some response I guess.

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