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What do you think is a reasonable amount of time to leave the washing-up?

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Thingslikethisneverwork · 20/08/2017 19:22

Small kitchen in a houseshare. We have a dishwasher but person in question doesn't want to use it.

Washing-up regularly left on the side for 24 hours+.

I have politely asked it gets done each night but person has agreed prefacing it with "this might not always happen, I'm only human..."

Aibu to feel like banging my head against a brick wall?! I dont want to see your dirty dishes cluttering up our tiny kitchen! Just do them - or use the dishwasher! I dont understand...

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ImperialBlether · 20/08/2017 19:23

Why doesn't this person want to use the dishwasher? Is he/she happy if you use the dishwasher?

Moanyoldcow · 20/08/2017 19:23

How many of you share? Are they communal dishes?

PickAChew · 20/08/2017 19:23

It's easiest to do them ASAP, whether sharing or not. When sharing, it's just plain dickish to leave them.

Screwinthetuna · 20/08/2017 19:23

House share? I'd do it immediately before I ate the food and wash my plate as soon as I'd finished. 24 hours is just dirty and rude

5rivers7hills · 20/08/2017 19:24

In a house share the only acceptable time is whilst you are actually eating dinner.

Suggest you buy some spare washing up bowls so the housemates stuff can be dumped into a bowl (and put on their bed) so they aren't clogging up the kitchen. Also require them to use their own kitchen equipment so they don't leave communal stuff out of action for long periods.

LittleBearPad · 20/08/2017 19:24

Why not use the dishwasher.

I'd be unhappy if they hung around beyond the following meal

John4703 · 20/08/2017 19:25

As you have a dishwasher dirty dishes should go into it as soon as they can. Once dishwasher is full turn it on. Dirty dishes all in the dishwasher means a tidy kitchen.

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Thingslikethisneverwork · 20/08/2017 19:26

Ah phew thanks!! It's actually two people - the other three are clean and do it immediately. I was made to feel like the bad guy for asking that things weren't left overnight and that the dishwasher was used... The reply was "I don't use the dishwasher"...

Apparently I am just meant to accept that dishes won't be washed immediately or indeed until later because they are just human and are busy...

How can I respond?

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ImperialBlether · 20/08/2017 19:32

You can say firmly, "Look, if you want to live with other people you have to make sure you clean up after yourself. Nobody wants to see your mess in the sink. It means they can't cook themselves and it means the kitchen smells. If you don't want to clean up after yourself, you need to live on your own."

hmmwhatatodo · 20/08/2017 20:38

Pretty much straight away in your situation.

allthatnonsense · 20/08/2017 21:46

Just bung it in the dishwasher, but don't take it out, even if you have to put dirty on top of clean.
They have a choice not to do it, you have a choice not to put with it.

Blankiefan · 20/08/2017 21:49

Leaving dirty dishes overnight will encourage mice. All done by bedtime as a minimum.

treaclesoda · 20/08/2017 21:52

This is baffling. They don't want to do their dishes but they also don't want to use a machine that does the dishes instead.

Did they give any explanation? Presumably they just hope someone else will wash them when they can't be arsed?

Aquamarine1029 · 20/08/2017 21:58

Dirty dishes should be cleaned right after they are used. Leaving dirty dishes for 24 hours is fucking disgusting and totally inexcusable.

FreudianSlurp · 20/08/2017 22:00

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user9512736123 · 20/08/2017 22:01

Until you have finished the meal.

Nuttynoo · 20/08/2017 22:02

Is the dishwasher switched on every night regardless of how full it is? If not chances are you're leaving your dishes unwashed for 24 hours or longer too.

AlternativeTentacle · 20/08/2017 22:03

Yes they need to put their dishes in the dishwasher. It is not difficult.

If they did that in a household was in the dishes would be put back in their cupboards dirty every fucking time.

Floofles · 20/08/2017 22:04

Ahahahahahahahah I wish my DH would read this 😂
But when I was a student the expectation in our shared house was cook, eat and then wash up immediately! And we were useless drunken students!

Dina1234 · 20/08/2017 22:06

In a houshare? 5 mins maybe. In a houshare with a dishwasher? Zero.

Quodlibet · 20/08/2017 22:06

It's completely illogical to leave them. They take the same amount of time to do whether you do them now or in a day. The only reason not to bother is that a) you live on your own, so it impacts no one b) you live with others with similarly low standards or c) you just don't care about the impact of your mess on other people. It's indicative of self-importance to think you can just eat and leave your stuff sitting around in a communal situation.

In terms of tackling it, can you get the other clean people to also take a line on it?

Fluffyears · 20/08/2017 22:08

Gross I'd have the cooking utensils in soaking whilst I ate and then everything washed up once I'd finished....then again I'd use the dishwasher. My friend came gone to a dirty pan in the coffe table, het flatnate had decided using a plate would dirty too many dishes so ate his dinner from the pan!

So glad I only share living space with DP.

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