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Medical termination

18 replies

Winter7 · 20/08/2017 18:33

Apologies as this is a sensitive subject but need advice.
Yesterday I had the first lot of medication to begin the termination progress at 6 weeks. Unusually, I have went on to pass the pregnancy before returning for the second medication tomorrow. I feel sure that this is is the case.
My question is, I would be missing my son's first day at nursery tomorrow to return for the other medication. Was told no flexibility in this so accepted this as part of a crap situation, however I now want to not return in the morning as it seems pointless now. I feel so bad already without missing my d's nursery and going though extra pain when I really feel it's not needed now.

Thank you.

Please no judgements on my decision to terminate, this was a very difficult but necessary decision.

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Slowcookerheaven · 20/08/2017 18:34

You really need to go back and do it according to the schedule. You're not medical I assume and so you can't really know.

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RestlessTraveller · 20/08/2017 18:35

Yes, you do really need to go back. You're risking infection.

NorthernLurker · 20/08/2017 18:42

Your son won't remember his first day. On the other hand he will remember if you harm your health which could have lifelong and even life threatening consequences.

Go back, tell them what's happened, receive the treatment you need.

Deinonychus · 20/08/2017 18:44

I would call the clinic first thing and ask their advice about whether you need to return or not. If they agree that you might have passed the pregnancy then you may not need the second lot of medication. They can also advise on if you need any further tests/follow up to confirm everything has passed.

Crumbs1 · 20/08/2017 18:47

The drugs can be prescribed with a six hour gap,but that carries a higher failure rate, 24 hours apart, 48 hours apart or 72 hours apart. They should offer you a choice. Ring them in the morning and explain you'd like a 48 hour gap and arrange to go the following day.

Misstomrs · 20/08/2017 18:48

I'm sorry but the PP are right. You need to have both doses. If not you risk infection which is much worse in the longer run. I know it's not what you wanted to hear but it is the right answer. The clinic will just tell you the same thing. I'm sorry you're in such a crap situation. Sending support.

Lottey90 · 20/08/2017 18:49

How do you know you passed the pregnancy? I would phone them up in the morning

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Winter7 · 20/08/2017 18:57

Thanks for your replies. I know that is the sensible thing to do, just feels really hard to accept.

Lottey - I feel strongly that I have as my experience is so similar to a previous miscarriage a number of years ago.

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NorthernLurker · 20/08/2017 19:03

The thing is, if you haven't passed all of the pregnancy, you will end up going back goodness knows how many times to get things sorted. Best to do it by the book and have a more straightforward experience.

Mrsknackered · 20/08/2017 20:05

Please do go back, I know somebody who had a termination for medical reasons and she became very ill as she had not passed all that needed to be.

Sorry you're going through this Flowers

Peachyking000 · 20/08/2017 20:11

I think phone and see if you can have a 48 hour gap. It's hard to be certain you've passed it all - even if it looks like a pregnancy sac, you can still pass lots of bits of tissue afterwards. I would be concerned that you may retain these and risk infection/haemorrhage.

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Winter7 · 20/08/2017 20:26

Thank you all for your advice and kind words. I will go back tomorrow as planned.

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NorthernLurker · 20/08/2017 21:17

Hope all goes very smoothly.

Slowcookerheaven · 21/08/2017 08:33

I hope today goes ok Flowers

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Winter7 · 21/08/2017 10:54

Thank you. I went back and a scan confirmed what I suspected so can being to process now.

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Slowcookerheaven · 21/08/2017 16:24
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Badbadtromance · 14/10/2017 08:10
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catgirl1976 · 14/10/2017 09:12

I had a medical abortion and knew I had passed the pregnancy after the first medication but I still went back for the second.

There is a huge risk of infection if there is anything remaining. You must go back.

I know you must be feeling awful about missing your son's first day but he won't remember and you'll miss a lot more if you end up in hospital for a week really ill.

That said I think there's something wrong with the system where they don't just give you both sets of tablets and make you trawl back again the next day. I'll be watching the programme on the UK abortion law with interest on Monday and wonder if that will be mentioned. We should not need the permission of 2 doctors and it should be a lot easier without multiple trips to the clinic imo.

Thanks for you x Hope it all goes smoothly and you enjoy the nursery drop offs for the rest of the week

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