To think he might think I'm a bunny boiler?

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So last week I bump into my ex for the first time.
I'm casually having a couple of drinks with my current BF and spot two of his friends looking at me grinning.
My heart starts racing because I know he will be here somewhere.
Then I spot him.
Then obviously I couldn't help myself slyly looking over ..every time I look he is looking so catches me looking.
I walk to the toilets and as I walk back one of his friends grabs my waist smiling and says "stay" I just say hello and head back to my BF.
My ex then walks right in front of our table and starts talking on the phone but catches me looking at him again.
Will I have looked like a crazy ex by keep looking?

I haven't really got that spark with the new guy,tbh he isn't really a BF we are just dating.
Haven't slept together but i wanted to make it look like I was happy etc ..god I know that sounds pathetic.

Maybe you need to step away from this new relationship until your over him.

I've been in a position a bit like your bf where the guy spent the whole night staring at his ex and she would come over to make a point. It made me feel unbelievably shit and I broke up with him that night.

Well it's obvious you're still in love with him.

I think you need to find out if he is still in the navy and has the same commitments as he did before.

My mum was in exactly the same position as you. Exactly! My dad gave up the navy for her and they're still in love gazillions of years later

Writing is on the wall for the new bf here. The old bf still has a lot of power over you :-/

I would love to ask him questions but I have no idea if he still has feelings for me.
It's been a year and I know feelings change,I've got a weird fear of looking sad/pathetic/like a idiot.

I also think you should split with the new guy it's not really fair on him years ago I was dating someone for about six months I fell head over heels for him when he broke it off I was devastated I met someone else a few months later and there was zero attraction I couldn't bring myself to sleep with him we dated a couple of months but I had to finish it you will get over your ex but it can take time.

You're exes for a reason, unlikely either of you have changed to any significant degree since splitting so what would be the point in going back there?

Pretty shitty thing to do to the new guy, I doubt 1 of the things he looks for in a partner is her ability to be hung up on an ex

The new guy is lovely,sweet,caring,considerate but I don't fancy him at all and I couldn't imagine sleeping with him.
I thought it might just happen one day but it hasn't.

This is really unfair on your new bf.

How would you feel if you were out and he was making eyes at his ex and not paying any attention to you. Then spending hours after playing it all over in his head.

Its actually really cruel and if i were him i would be considering ending it myself.

Theres no point being with someone if you feel like that no matter how nice he is.

I'm going to end it with new guy because I know it's not fair..
I know nobody can answer this and know for sure but do you think any chance my ex might have felt jealous?

Who knows? Why did you split up? Incidentally I did get over the ex that I felt devastated about and a few years later met and fell in love with dh and you will too.

Maybe he did.

Maybe he is on leave and bet his mates he could get you into bed again.

Or just fancies a hook up.

You really do sound like a teenager.

You split for a reason.

I'm just going to stop thinking about him.

I'm just going to stop thinking about him

Yep. Because it's that simple.

😬

Why did you break up with him?

If only it was.
He was in the navy then left but took a job offshore so it was impossible to maintain