To be frustrated with some comments on baby names forum

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I guess I am. But...

Backstory

We are foreigners permanently living in the UK. I have common european name, same spelling as British version. Might be lucky (my name was my dad's choice).

My DH has complex name and it's quite hard to pronounce for British people. He shortens it to the first three letters (in this case it's another common British name).

But regarding his full name it's struggle sometimes. Especially when you have to deal with someone openly irritated with foreign name. 🤔
So for our son we decided to go for western world name. We had the first name and the middle name we loved.

And AIBU to be upset when I see nasty comments about this particular name and to be upset in general when people say rude things about names parents thinking of?

In my native country people are more gentle about names. If that name exists ( proper name I mean) - no comments except other options.

So I'm just a bit surprised my beloved and usually very gentle Brits sometimes...er.. can be quite rude about baby names.

P.S. son's name is more popular in states, but the year he was born it was top 17 in UK too.

Now I'm curious what alcoholic drink WyfOfBathe almost accidentally named her baby after.

Margarita? Tom Collins? Vesper? Kina lillet? Babycham? . . . I'll get my coat.

My sons name gets bashed all the time. I don't care what Internet strangers say. Not everybody likes the same things, life would be boring if we did

his name is Archie
not suitable for a grown professional man apparently

I'm surprised Ryan gets criticised, tbh. It's seems a pretty ordinary name with no hidden connotations.
There again, apparently my daughter's straightforward ordinary English name is disgusting and ridiculous according to one poster on here. Did I get upset when I read that? Nah, I just ignored it. I don't particularly value people's opinions on here, at least not on the subject of baby's names.

I used to know a Ryan who is one of the nicest and most intelligent people you'll ever meet. I have nothing but positive associations with the name!

The only Ryans I know get Ry. .

What is your native country, OP?

Ryan is often grouped with Connor , Callum , Riley etc as names that primary teachers are wary of.

This is why I haven't posted our boy name (don't know what we're having!), as a quick search on Mumsnet revealed someone asked about it a couple of years ago and people just took the mick out of it and wee damning of it! (It's a Scandinavian name by origin so not well-known in the U.K. but DH and I love it!) I think I just accepted no name will be loved by everyone and at the end of the day you're the only people who need to like your child's name.

If you post asking for opinions on an anonymous forum asking for opinions then you need to expect honest opinions. I would hope that anyone posting there has read other threads and knows this. I haven't often seen many actual posters offended. I can imagine being offended by rude comments about my own name, but can't imagine many British people actually saying that irl. I don't know if people from other places will be more forthright even irl.

Now I'm curious what alcoholic drink WyfOfBathe almost accidentally named her baby after.
The name was Alizée, in France it's unusual but not unheard of. I hadn't realised that Alizé is a brand of liqueur.

WyfOfBathe Ah, I wouldn't have known it was a brand of liqueur, either!

Ryan is a common surname in Ireland.
It's also used as a first name.

The thing is, if you post for opinions on Mumsnet, you get the opinions of Mumsnet. But Mumsnet isn't all of society. I don't know how many people belong to or post on here, but it can't be more than 1%? Puts it in perspective somewhat

Thank you guys for kind words!

@KnockMeDown that's it.. yes. It's statistically insignificant.

I have never asked for opinions on baby names forum myself, as it won't reflect actual statistics.

The comments are just quite rude sometimes.

I agree it's anonymity to blame.

For some reason this thread made me feel better)) thank you

@WorraLiberty it's Ukraine

Ryan is a fine name. Nothing wrong with it at all.