Or was my mum?!

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Ok so long story short, I'm 22 and still living at home (I know I need to move out but money is tight atm!!)

I told my DM yesterday that after I finish work today I'm going away for a couple of days, so once I get in from work I'll be getting ready and leaving. My mum doesn't want me to go so yesterday she yelled at me and called me selfish/only ever think of myself etc etc.

I'm going to stay at my boyfriends for a couple of days, and she's not a big fan of him and I'm not really sure why. She's never liked the idea of me having a boyfriend for whatever reason.

Am I being unreasonable?

Why doesn't she want you to go?
Your a adult and can do whatever you want.
Might be a good idea to think about moving out.

Yanbu at all

NO OP! You're not BU!! I had EXACTLY this same situation with my mum and my relationship only improved with her when I moved out to live with my boyfriend!! Before that she couldn't accept I was an adult and treated me like a baby. She was also an agressive narcissistic alcoholic!! You must stick to your gunsgor your own sanity!!

guns for**

She doesn't want me to go because she doesn't like me going anywhere she doesn't have control of me. It's such a difficult relationship!

I'm def sticking to my guns and going.. she's not ruining it for me haha

Unless you're going out while leaving a trail of used towels, cups and bowls behind you then of course you are not being unreasonable!
Don't engage with nonsense and have a lovely time with your boyfriend.

I empathise with you so much OP cos this was the relationship with my mum too - awful and in my case I thought it showed just how immature my mum was

No I've left everything tidy and there's no mess!

I did think she was being unreasonable to be honest, but she loses her temper EVERY time I go out with him, questions why it must be that particular day I see him, why not another day? And then accuses me of lying when I say we're going out for a meal.

I do think she's quite immature, it does show. She's also said she doesn't like me going because she wants to "spend time as a family" - but when I am at home (which is more often than not) we don't do anything either .

Thanks for your views ladies. I'm off to work now!