AIBU to change my engagement ring?

[Celestia26]

Another engagement ring thread.....Sorry! And possibly a bit strange.....?

My husband and I have been married for almost 3 years. When he proposed, it was with his mother's ring which was lovely, however it was not quite my style and also she and his father got divorced, so I wasn't keen on having her ring as my engagement ring.
We went out and chose a lovely ring together. However, I didn't consider the shape of it when picking our wedding rings and they don't really fit together, as the engagement ring has a curved shape and my wedding ring is a standard 'straight' ring, so I don't actually wear my ring now as they just don't fit right. I have been considering getting it redesigned for a while, as I would really like to wear it. I was thinking that while I am doing this, I could possibly use the diamonds and gold from his mother's ring too, so that I can combine the two (his mother's ring has sentimental value as it was the ring he proposed with). What are people's thoughts on this? Does it sound like an OK thing to do? I just want a ring that I can wear, that retains all the meaning and sentiment of him proposing.

Can you not just wear your engagement ring (either one ) on your right hand? The wedding ring will look nice by itself.

I really want to wear them together, I know that sounds a bit picky 😳

You see, I don't think they look bad together at all on the same finger. Maybe try it for a week or two and see if you get used to it? I see what you mean about one being straight and one being curved, but they are both classic styles and I think your eye would be drawn to the diamond (and, if anything, the slight gap that the curve creates makes the diamond stand out more).

You can easily have the square diamond turned and two each side with a straight band

Lots of jewellers around will reuse the gold and do a good job - if your near Birmingham try the jewellery quarter for quotes

Definitely get them remodelled. I'm waiting on my engagement ring being made using my mum's one.

Should be done in the next week! So excited.

We had my wedding bands made to order from a small independent jewelers to fit around my engagement ring. I'd do it OP you are the person that will wear the ring. I also think it's sweet that MIL have you her old ring in really love to mine and my DC will not be having it till I die even if me and DH break up I'll still wear it on another finger

You could get a band designed to fit inbetween the two rings. Flat at the back and v shaped/wavy at the front. Maybe wait until a milestone anniversary if you're sentimental and the middle ring would be the anniversary ring

not quite the same but I inherited my mums and my grans engagement rings. Neither were to my taste so i had them remodelled into pendants which i wear. means they're not dumped in a drawer and are actually worn.
i think its a fine idea.

Blimey, I had no idea that plenty of people upgrade their engagement rings. No one I know has. But I'm old, I guess times have changed.

I downgraded my engagement ring. To one with a small rubover stone that would not scratch DD's face.

Didn't mean to be harsh but I was genuinely puzzled as to how you find yourself with a ring combo that you are planning to wear for life that don't fit together.

If you want a new ring go for it

OP those rings are beautiful! I can see why you'd want a solution to how the two bands (engagement and wedding) sit flush, together on your finger.

Would it be a possibility to have your 'wavy' engagement ring remade into a straight band and wear your MIL's ring also on the same finger, as an eternity ring might be worn? It's the right style to sit well like this.

Equally I think your MIL's ring is very pretty and would look good on your other hand.

I'm thinking this because (jewellery experts correct me if wrong) surely there will be excess gold from making two rings into one... Also in your case (nice problem!) but perhaps too many stones to go neatly on one ring.

Flyinggeese good suggestions. Will see what the jeweller can do. They are different golds, so this might affect whether they can be mixed or not. Will see what they say. Will report back with the new design when it's done as well! ☺

Minkyfluffster no problem, I was confused how I managed to do this as well! Lol. I suppose trying on a ring in a shop for a few minutes is different to wearing it constantly. Was only when I was wearing it for a long period that I realised it would be an issue. The engagement ring moves as I wear it and due to the shape hooks over the wedding band, it then catches on things which is annoying.

Littlelights those are gorgeous rings BTW!

Lovely rings! One more thing to consider is that ideally they should be the same metal as each other. My engagement ring is platinum so I had to get a platinum wedding ring because it would have worn away at a softer metal over the years.

WildCherryBlossom that's something I'll ask the jeweller, may be an issue....my wedding ring is 18ct white gold. Mil ring is 18ct yellow gold with a platinum mount which I had plated to make it 'white gold '. My engagement ring is 14ct white gold. If I can't mix the metals I'll have a new band made in 18ct white gold to match my wedding ring and use the diamonds instead. Will see what my options are, but want to keep/recycle as much of both rings as possible!

I wear my engagement ring on the other hand

Hi, your rings are lovely, from my own experience I would recommend remodelling. i also got a shaped wedding ring to fit around my engagement ring which never sat properly together. When the stone fell out my original ring I took the opportunity to change the setting to fit my mother's and grandma's straight wedding ring. both are hugely sentimental and I love them. I had it done at McIntyres.

I hope you find the right solution. X

I've just done something similar. Although using my already upgraded engagement ring!

Engagement ring was a three stone set in yellow gold. Plain yellow gold wedding band. I also had a yellow gold ring set with ten tiny diamonds that I never wore. I hardly ever wear yellow gold now as I have a silver ring and bracelet that I love and wear all the time.

So for our 20th anniversary I spoke to DH about getting them reset. Finally got around to getting them done this year coming up to our 22nd anniversary!

I had the engagement ring remade with platinum in pretty much the same setting but added tiny diamonds along the shoulders. I then had a slightly curved eternity ring made also in platinum using the diamonds from th ring I never wore. I'm really happy with them now although DH thinks they are a bit 'gaudy'!

My original original engagement ring was from Ratners back in the 80s. I never felt the same about it after Gerald Ratner said his stores sold crap! I still have the diamonds from that and I had the set into a gold necklace but they don't sit right. So next plan is to have that redone.

We lived overseas for years where jewellery was quite cheap and I have lots that I just done wear so I'm going to sell it and use the money towards redoing the necklace.

My husband gave me a ring in my marriage.Its very beautiful.You can see this I think you will like this.

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