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AIBU?

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To not wash their pots?

9 replies

MummyJess123 · 19/08/2017 13:50

Bit of background first, I'm living my with my DM while my home is having some quite intensive renovation done (We're looking at 10 months to complete and I've been with my mother around 4 months) My siblings also live with her and are aged 18 and 20.
She is away a lot and I do like to help her out because she is doing me a big favour (I'm also heavily pregnant) so when she goes away I'll run the vaccum cleaner round, do the washing make sure everything is generally clean and tidy. However there is one thing that irks me above all, my darling siblings (who don't actually leave their rooms except to go to work and come downstairs to eat) insist on coming down, making food and not washing up. Prime example of this was this morning. I'd eaten my breakfast, just washed my breakfast pots, brought the washing in and folded it then popped out to town and when I came back there is a sinkful of pots waiting for me like they expect me to just clean their mess up. Up until about a month ago I'd have washed them but it's seriously got to the point where it's irritating me. I have spoken to them about it but each blames the other saying things like 'It's not mine, it's xxxx's' or 'Only one of them is mine the rest is xxxx's surely he should wash them?' or worst of all 'I'll do it later' (It never gets done). and interestingly when my mother returns I'm the one that gets a bollocking for it even after I've explained that I've already washed mine. She says that if I'm in the house doing nothing (I'm on maternity leave) then I should do it, even if there are days when my brothers aren't at work. AIBU to be pissed off? I know in the grand scheme of things it's trivial but it winds me up something chronic.

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TestingTestingWonTooFree · 19/08/2017 13:55

Yanbu but her house, her rules. Maybe buy each of you a washing up bowl and label them?

pigsDOfly · 19/08/2017 13:58

Well clearly your DM thinks because you are the female you should be the one doing the washing up. Sod that.

Wash your own stuff and leave theirs where it is. Go and buy some pots of your own and keep them in your room when they're not in use so you don't have to wash up before you can cook.

Point out to your DM that you are not a skivvy and this is not the 1950s.

MummyJess123 · 19/08/2017 14:05

I don't think it's so much because I'm a woman I think her reasoning is that they work and I'm currently on maternity leave so I'm in the house most of the time and have the most 'free time'.

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BreakfastAtSquiffanys · 19/08/2017 14:09

Buy and extra washing up bowl and dump the dirty pots in the offender's bedroom, preferably just inside the door so that they trip over them.
Keeps the kitchen lovely and neat

Pengggwn · 19/08/2017 15:11

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MrTrebus · 19/08/2017 15:18

Sorry but lots is making me laugh. I am just picturing a load of clay pots in a sink.
Is there no dishwasher? Is there a place for one? I would buy one of there was as a thank you for letting you stay there for 10 months, then you can all take it in turns to empty it as it will be full of everyone's pots. But I'm nice like that.

MrTrebus · 19/08/2017 15:19

*pots pots pots

DailyMailReadersAreThick · 19/08/2017 15:20

YANBU but your mum is. I like BreakfastAtSquiffanys's approach... and I'll also be moving back into my own house as soon as it was barely habitable.

Will she still be expecting you to do all the housework when you have the baby?

pinkyredrose · 19/08/2017 15:25

Does your mother want her son's to become responsible adults or does she think that they'll find wives to clear up after them?

YANBU. I wouldn't do their washing up either.

As an aside what on earth are you doing to your house that's taking 14 months?! It takes less than that to build a house from scratch!

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