Comments on child feeding

[mummabear17]

So today at work a colleague made a comment about feeding babies jar/pouch meals, as I do this occasionally after work for my DS's dinner as there's only an hour between getting in and bedtime, to fit in dinner,bath, milk and bed. She said it was 'unnecessary' and 'lazy'. I try to batch cook and freeze as much homemade stuff as I can but being a single working mum it's hard to fit everything in and I think the jars/pouches are fine as emergencies?! AIBU?!

Meh, I don't even use them in an emergency. DS normally has one for his dinner. I know he'll eat it and is less likely to wake in the night as he is full.

Just realised my post isn't clear. I use them every day, I won't pretend I don't

As long as the baby is being fed suitable food for their stage of weaning which they are then just ignore!

People like to judge!

Cooking purees etc is one of those things that sounds great, and is definitely desirable, but isn't always a biggie. I'll bet you're there for DS in a million other more important ways. You're not superwoman.

She's being a knob they're fine to use every now and then. Or even regularly as long as they have some exposure to other food too to explore different textures.

I'm using them. Ds has just started solids and he enjoys the fruity ones. Couldn't give a monkeys what anyone else thinks

Jars and pouches are fine. It doesn't need to be an emergency.

Jars and pouches are fine. Yanbu. Your colleague sounds like an opinionated tactless pain in the arse. You are a working single mum. I say it's much more important you spend your time doing things that need done and enjoying time with your son! Not batch cooking baby food.

Do you know what? I did all the batch cooking and freezing stuff for my first but it was all jars for my second. First became the fussiest eater ever and second has really weird exotic tastes.

Ignore your colleague.

Ha. I felt like this after ds1. Believe me, when you get to the second one, your standards have to drop.

Pouches are fine and it's hard enough!

Ignore the self righteous people!

Ha- great minds clopy

Thanks for your replies. To clarify - I wasn't suggesting I thought they should only be used in emergencies, I just meant they are good for limited times etc! They have all the nutrients in them and everything they need I don't see what's wrong with them at all. He loves his little baby finger food snacks (would eat a whole pack In one go if I let him!!) and munches on bits of (appropriate) fruit so he is fine.

Re the woman who made comment not sure if it's relevant or not but she is 20 years old (I am only 25) with no children and has grown up with her parents doing everything for her and paying for everything she wants. A bit of a princess type IMO. I just kind of replied 'well if you want to come and cook all these home made things for me then you are welcome to come over!' She went silent after that 🤔

Ahh pre children I had alsorts of ideals. They don't last long

Great response!

I think I only gave DD1 one jar of baby food. I know I only gave DD2 one jar, in an emergency. I probably gave DS about three or four. My choice and fitted my circumstances to do so. With DD1, I was working 48 hours a week by the time she was 6 months old, but nights and I had a 'D'H who insisted on tea cooked for him when he got in from work every evening. He left when DD1 was 9.

With DD2 and DS I started working again when DS was 3, so easier.

I would never judge anyone for how they feed their kids. BUT You are a single working mum of a baby!! You have every reason to take this option as many times as you like! Even the most judgemental cannot judge you for this!

All fed, nobody dead is a good motto! my mantra in the looong summer holiday

She is clearly just ignorant. Any one who has had a child knows that your DS will benefit far more from cuddles and maternal attention in the evening than being sat on his own while you faff around making a puree. I now have 2 teenagers and miss those after work cuddles - make the most of it whilst you can.

I don't really get why people say homemade purees are desirable, Ellas kitchen for example is all organic stuff, nutritionally balanced and made in a regulated environment. Contrast that with my questionable cooking skills. I ate jars exclusively until I was three and I was just fine.

My now 2 yo tended to fling my lovingly prepared purees and eat the ella's pouches like she'd never been fed. They like doing that, and eating something ravenously one time then acting like you are trying to poison them then next time you serve it. It hurts less when they reject bought food...

My dd is 7 months and I weaned her at 20 ish weeks. First on puree then we introduced finger foods just before 6 months. I had someone comment that she thought I was doing baby led weaning and was 'shocked' to see me spoon feeding dd2 an Ellas Kitchen pouch. I told her I was absolutely following my baby's lead, going at her pace and offering her a mixture of finger foods, purees, mashed foods, sandwiches etc. She scoffed that I was 'doing it wrong'. BLW is simple, prevents fussy eaters, absolutely no mush or spoons should be used at all and that my dd would be 'confused' about food. Moral of my story: people like to judge, for no other reason other than they have it in their head they are right and their way is the only way. Ignore. Laugh. Just enjoy and love your baby. Im a second time mum and this competitive mother shit washes right over me now. I've got living proof in the form of my 6 year old that I know what I'm doing and I'm doing a good job.

Thank you for all your replies. I feel better now! I wouldn't say her comments really bothered or upset me too much as I can see my boy is happy and healthy and that is all that matters!!! She was also the one who made a comment a couple of months back about him growing up coming from a 'broken home' 😡 have decided she is a nitwit and will avoid as much as possible!

She clearly is a complete fuckwit.

Both my kids were weaned solely on jars and pouches. Couldn't give a tiny rats arse if anyone judges it honestly.

She's 20, she doesn't have kids or a clue. Your response was spot on.

A children's centre worker told me (and a room full of new mothers- several anxious ones...) that there was NOTHING good in pre made baby food then went on to liken it to poison.

Twat.

Crack on OP

She sounds like a dick.

My ideals went out the window when I was presented with one of these small people. I keep a pouch in my bag at all times for the inevitable emergency.

yes pre-kids I would have had my judgypants hoiked just as high as well. Only organic home-made purees for my darling children! Except that DC1 firmly refused to eat any and survived on commercially produced gloop for 2 years..