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AIBU?

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Original poster

To think bringing radios etc to the park is inconsiderate

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user1498921160 · 18/08/2017 14:55

Several times this Summer we have had picnics and afternoons in the park ruined by individuals who plonk themselves a few feet away from people who are trying to relax/read/snooze and disturb everyone by filling the air with loud music or sports commentary.

AIBU to think this is really rude and annoying?

OP posts:

MrsJayy · 18/08/2017 14:59

Oh dearie me yabu it is a public park do you complain about children screeching too ?

Scribblegirl · 18/08/2017 15:01

Too little info. There's a huge difference between hearing some background music from a group and someone lugging a massive boom box to the extent you can't hear yourself think.

VaselineIsNotStylingGel · 18/08/2017 15:02

It's a public park YABU.
What are you going to do if the council puts on an event? Complain your quiet enjoyment has been disturbed?

If you want peace and quiet either use your own private garden or move to a house that has one.

The parks are there for all. Children, dog walkers, people exercising and people have a right to play music if they wish. If it bothers you so much wear ear plugs.

People ABU to snooze in the park, you aren't a tramp. You have a bed at home.

thatdearoctopus · 18/08/2017 15:02

YANBU. I had the exact same rage on the beach the other day. WHY do people assume everyone else on the beach wants to listen to their shite music?

user1485342611 · 18/08/2017 15:05

YANBU. I cannot stand it when people impose their music or choice of radio programmes on everyone else. Yes, a park is a public place, so people should respect that and not ruin everyone else's peace and enjoyment of that public place.

Likewise with beaches.

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user1498921160 · 18/08/2017 15:07

Oh God yes. Beaches as well.

Some people just cannot seem to enjoy any kind of peace and quiet and assume everyone else is the same and wants to listen to their crappy music or loud football commentary instead of enjoying a bit of tranquillity.

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chitofftheshovel · 18/08/2017 15:07

I'm on the fence. I've had it a couple of times at the beach recently and have been mildly annoyed and slightly perplexed by the idea of not loving the sound of the waves crashing. But, meh, each to their own.

loveka · 18/08/2017 15:08

Yes, it's rubbish behaviour. Inflicting what they want on other people.

ShotsFired · 18/08/2017 15:23

I was in a wine bar yesterday, so a semi-public place.

Nice vibe, people chatting, glasses clinking etc.
Then this woman starts watching something on her phone. Super loud volume even though it was right in front of her face.

I gave it a min in case it was a quick clip or she was hurriedly trying to find the volume etc, then said "Excuse me? EXCUSE ME? Please turn that down."

She looked shocked and apologised and immediately did so, as if she hadn't realised where she was or that she was screeching out her stupid tv programme at top volume. I virtually got a round of applause from everyone else who was being awfully British about it!

Icequeen01 · 18/08/2017 15:27

We are currently on holiday in Cyprus and just went down for a swim at a little cove a few minutes drive from us. There is never more than one or two people snorkelling there as it's very rocky. Today there were two couples perched on a large rock blasting out their music and dancing. Bloody annoying as it is usually so quiet and peaceful. Totally ruined the moment for us!

SnickersWasAHorse · 18/08/2017 15:33

I hear you op. But most people won't agree I'm afraid.

user1485342611 · 18/08/2017 15:33

What is wrong with some people that they cannot go five minutes without some kind of loud intrusive noise? We have it in shops and restaurants nowadays, we can't sit on a bus without someone shouting into a phone and now we can't enjoy a relaxing hour or two in the park or on the beach without some knob forcing us all to listen to their music or whatever.
Normal background noises like kids playing, people chatting quietly or dogs barking in the distance is not the same as a radio blaring out a few feet away from you.

LogicalPsycho · 18/08/2017 15:57

It's a public park, so pot luck who you end up sharing it with.
Usually it's just me and DC, but sometimes go with DH and a small picnic, bottle of wine and yes, some music through a portable speaker too.

I accept I'll have to listen to kids screaming, dogs barking, teenagers shouting, people chatting into their phones, so they have to tolerate my (not loud) music.
What's good for one is good for the other!

thatdearoctopus · 18/08/2017 16:06

I kind of accept that shopping centres and so forth have piped music, and many other public places. But an outdoor place where most presumably go to enjoy a natural environment is different, I think. At a ski resort we go to, they insist on blasting out fucking awful French pop music at the main centre. I could almost even accept that (begrudgingly) except for the fact that you can even hear the bloody noise right up the top of the mountain when the wind is in a certain direction. There you are, at the top of the world, exquisite views of unspoilt beauty and silence, and there's an intrusive 'thud, thud, thud' from a mile or so down the mountain, often with some twat on a megaphone to compound your pain.

ErrolTheDragon · 18/08/2017 16:11

The parks are there for all. Children, dog walkers, people exercising and people have a right to play music if they wish. If it bothers you so much wear ear plugs.

Sure they have a right to play music, but they should use headphones and not disturb everyone else. The idea that others should wear earplugs is ridiculous - what, so if we don't want random strangers music we shouldn't expect to want to listen to birdsong, talk to people...

Walking up and down Helvellyn last weekend, I was suprised by several people - all members of groups, oddly - playing music. There's a time and a place, and that really wasn't it.

thatdearoctopus · 18/08/2017 16:18

people have a right to play music if they wish.

Yeah, and that is the type of selfish, entitled attitude that seems to be everywhere now and really pisses me off.

Birdsgottafly · 18/08/2017 16:20

Some people don't have gardens or outdoor spaces, so think of Parks/beaches as a place that they can use how they want.

Wearing headphones and having your eyes closed could be risky, so they play music instead.

It's big groups (of usually teen lads) who play loud music and start drinking and swearing/being sexually explicit, that annoy me, especially on a big beach, where they could move away from families.

specialsubject · 18/08/2017 16:22

right to play music, yes.
right to inflict it on everyone else, no. Use earphones.

it is always dickish doofy-doofy-doof crap rap too!

ErrolTheDragon · 18/08/2017 18:06

Wearing headphones and having your eyes closed could be risky, so they play music instead.

Just put one earphone in, then you can hear whats going on around you too. Thats what I do if I want to listen to something while out running.

VaselineIsNotStylingGel · 18/08/2017 22:18

thatdearoctopus Get over yourself. It's expecting others to kowtow to your own wishes that I find selfish and entitled.
Like the people who go in the dog areas for a picnic and then complain about the dogs. Ever done that by any chance?
Did you move next to a school and complain about the noise from the playground?
People have no tolerance for others anymore, it's sad. Of course there are always going to be people who take the piss at either end but the OP seems to have a problem with anyone with a radio and as pp have said it's a park for heavens sake, plenty of room for everyone and either to move.

Here dear, have a grip and get over yourself.

VaselineIsNotStylingGel · 18/08/2017 22:19

ooo look at me I wrote get over yourself twice for extra emphasis

ErrolTheDragon · 18/08/2017 22:27

People have no tolerance for others anymore, it's sad.

Sad as people having no consideration for others? (especially when its so simple to just use an earphone if you must have music or test match special or whatever.)

While we're on things people do in public open spaces ... if you want to bbq and its allowed, great, but please try to do it downwind of others if you possibly can.

PollyFlint · 18/08/2017 22:36

I see a lot of people are using 'It's a public park' to justify people bringing radios etc.

But I would say that 'It's a public park' is precisely why shouldn't treat it like it's your own living room. Spaces that you share with others are exactly the spaces in which you shouldn't be inflicting your musical tastes on other people. It's incredibly selfish.

In short, YANBU. People just need to get some headphones.

thatdearoctopus · 18/08/2017 22:55

Vaseline Your attitude is quite astounding.
I don't expect anyone to kowtow to my wishes.
People have no tolerance for others anymore, it's sad It's not a lack of tolerance on our part, but a basic lack of consideration of people like you that is the problem. The difference between you and me in a park is that I'm not bothering you by my quiet and unobtrusive presence (with my well-behaved dog!), whereas if you have a loud radio blaring music, you're disturbing everyone around you.

But yeah, go ahead. Fuck everyone else. It's your "right" to do what the hell you like.

Thereshegoesagain · 18/08/2017 23:01

What if everyone did it?

YANBU

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