Sorry to be brief
Having quite a shit summer to be fair. DH has a track record for doing tactless things.
We had a few unexpected financial issues in the last 6 months meaning we've had to tighten our belts and save across all areas.
I work PT and take responsibility for 90% of childcare (3 kids one with SN)
DH worked away for ten years before changing role and he now works from home 4 days a week.
He's very lucky as he is able to have great flexibility and IMO he has plenty of time for leisure in between calls and e mails (he is able to go to the golfing green and on his bike in between)
We've had no holiday/no break since last summer.
I scheduled 6 days off so we could do something last minute
He completely messed up his leave meaning we did not get to go anywhere last minute.
After we learnt we'd not be able to do anything a day or so later he announces he is going to France for a 2 day break with his friend-who is scouting the region for a business venture. He needs a break and it's IN THE CALENDAR !
Wtf? He can find extra days for a friend but cannot change anything around for us? He is exhausted-he claims (join the club)
Part 2 of this AIBU -when I found out about his jolly I booked a hotel where my friend got married last year for 2 days so the kids and I will be able to enjoy the grounds, local area(Wales) and the pool. I invited a friend and she's joining us with her husband -I cannot wait but DH has found out and is furious.
He's annoyed because I'm spending money but if I'm honest I think he's annoyed that he's missing out on the fact we will be having fun with them he has FOMO.
AIBU to think he
A. Needs to pull his finger out of his arse and help more
B. Needs to put his family first
C. Needs to accept that if he's off on jollies it's only fair the DC and I get downtime