Making tea

[Missishippy]

I don't work outside the home. I care for adult DS with mental health problems who is recovering well if slowly. I have fibromyalgia. DH works full time in not too demanding job. When DH comes home he makes tea & asks if I want some. I usually have a cup. I don't think about/drink tea as much as he does but he tells me I should be making it for him. This makes me feel like little woman at home - dinner on table, slippers by fireside etc. AIBU to resent his expectation?

I'd say that you should be offering half the time as you seem to drink it whenever he offers. Not because it's little woman, just because it's the decent thing to do. If you never or rarely drank it then possibly not, but you do, so you should.

Is it difficult to look after your son? If so the he is being unreasonable but if it's not then surely you can have a cuppa waiting for him. I don't work outside the house my DH does and his dinner is waiting for him when he comes in

No YANBU.

I work from home and unless I am stuck on a call I like to make my wife a coffee when she gets in from work. It's just a small way I can show her I care and love her. If she demanded it or I thought she expected it as a right though she'd be making her own.

I work very part time and have fibromyalgia. Dh and I tend to share things. But he will make things when I am having a flare up.

Me and my OH always 'argue' over who makes the tea. I do offer if I've been home all day and he's been work, it's only polite.