It's quite a lengthy one so I'm sorry but there's a lot of back story. Me and my partner run dance events in which people attend. Around 2 years ago a lady joined who I was instantly put off as she seemed to cling to my partner and go out of her way to ignore me, although with her being a paying customer I'm always at polite as I can be. She had a partner a young child when she joined and my partner says she was friendly enough.
Over the years she has shown herself to be a drama queen and an attention seeker.. such things as 1) having multiple asthma attacks - which I took very seriously being a sufferer myself but found it odd she didn't know the difference between brown/blue, appeared to.enjoy everyone crowding around 2) over sharing about how good XX is in bed but he's now messing her around but please can we not tell anyone as she doesn't want her partner to find out etc.
She has had a rough time over the last 12 months, for which I feel for her. She broke it off from her partner after her multiple affairs, moved house and is currently recovering from an operation to remove her ovary. I do feel for her...she is lonely, and I myself last year had the same op after an ectopic pregnancy so know how hard recovery both physically and emotionally can be. I have tried to be a shoulder to cry on / chat to when she has wanted, even though I find it awkward and a bit odd as it's very much a customer/organiser relationship, and I do not go into sharing any of my personal details.
Anyway I'm currently 28 weeks pregnant and my tether is now wearing thin with her constant over drama and over sharing. Neither myself or my partner want to be involved in her drama, but feel some kind of duty towards a customer to be polite and friendly and interested in the oversharing small talk...we ran a huge event last weekend of which she brought an early bird ticket in March. I say brought, she never actually paid us. She told us she did, and that she wish she had taken a screenshot of the payment, as it came out of her bank but didn't end up in ours. Tickets when not paid for usually expire after 48hours...so in theory we should have sold it on. But we knew she was having a rough time and we held the ticket for her...for 5 months (in which she has pulled the same 'bank stunt' again with another event). She used every excuse after being caught out not paying (we asked for a proof from her bank) - she will struggle to get into town with pre op stuff and has declined friends helping her with this, her bank ap doesn't have a history, her bank won't email statements and they must keep getting lost in the post. Every excuse. 3 days before the event we told her that no money=no entry...she would need to pay the £109 in cash on arrival and we would make an exception for her as we where now sold out. She didn't turn up. But did want to come to the Friday night and suggestef she paid £10 as she didn't want to miss out...we agreed, she danced, happy days, win win. She then turned back up on Saturday daytime and milled around the venue, with her entry wristband still on. I politely asked her to stay in the bar area as she hadn't paid. She left. She turned back up again in the evening(with wristband) and said her friend was inside whom she was going out with, could she just nip inside and find her. I okay it - she was about 20 minutes socialising before she left.She turned up again at 1.30am (3am finsih) and tried to sneak past into the hall again...got in, got spotted and scarpered before either of us could approach her. We both felt very much that she took the piss, and I politely let her know that she should not turn up on Sunday as she was being cheeky/pushing her luck.
Anyway she had the operation yesterday, posted updates all over FB etc - not my style but okay, it's how she copes. Then messaged us at 5.30am...knowing we go to bed after our events at 1.30am earliest. Saying she hadn't felt up to messaging earlier but she's now hooked up to XY and Z drugs and that she hasn't done a wee yet etc. It woke us both up and me getting larger and struggling to sleep I didn't really get back to any quality sleep...woke up felt shite and ended up crying out of frustration. My partner replied to the 3 way chat on FB at 5.30am to say we're happy the op went well but that we needed to sleep. I want to be able to keep my phone on, our 2 younger children are on holiday, we both have infirm elderly parents and I would feel awful if we missed a crucial night time phone call.
AIBU to reply to this lady and say unless it's an an emergency that we are needed for (although it would be very odd to be the ones she called in the night for an emergency - its just not that relationship) please don't contact us outside of usual waking hours 11pm-8am is a no no - sleep is precious to us and we want to make the most of it before we have newborn..
Is that too much to ask? I feel her message was attention seeking....but at 5.30am...come on...bearing in mind if it had been at 9am she would have received 2 Pleasant replies making sure she was okay and wishing her speedy recoveries etc.