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My neighbours and their astonishing sense of entitlement

41 replies

VelvetSpoon · 16/08/2017 23:59

I'll start by saying i appreciate this falls far short of one of those neighbours from hell situations you see on tv but nonetheless they are driving me mad...

Neighbors have 4 kids in a tiny 2 bed. I have 2 teens, and live in a house more than twice the size of theirs. Not a boast, but I do think some of their twatty behavior is partly jealousy.

I have posted before about them letting their kids climb in my garden to fetch their toys (I've had to tell them to get out of my garden at least 10 times), said kids also kicking balls over my fence all the time, knocking for them back and expecting an instant response, throwing stones in my garden, kicking ball against my fence (theyve kicked a hole on the panel), constantly screaming and shouting at each other in the garden from 7.30am and calling out to us if we're in the garden. Always just kids as parents are indoors leaving them to own devices. Culminating in eldest kid telling me (when my fence was broken) her dad said i needed to fix it. I told her if he wanted to speak to me he should do it directly. I have since fixed the fence but in my own time and only cheaply (as longer term I want to put up a 6ft fence but as there are about 15 panels Im not able to do it immediately).

Last year i had a skip. They put a load of their stuff in it. I dumped it on their drive (I knew it was theirs as Id seen it in their garden)

Their bins constantly overflow. They have a car each but are too lazy or thick to go to the council tip (1.5 miles away!) and instead leave their bins piled up attracting foxes and rats. On occasion they also put stuff in my bin. This hasnt happened for about a year, since i moved my bin away from the wall between our houses. Come home tonight...fucking bin bag in there. I know it's theirs as a) no one else would have the front to walk into my garden and put their crap in my bin and b) they use a fairly distinctive type of binbag. I've left it on their drive.

I've also chucked a blind they keep putting on my garden wall back in their front garden.

Aibu to have done this? I dont think so, I have had enough of their shit, I really have.

OP posts:
Katyazamo · 17/08/2017 00:22

Yanbu. Did they say anything when you put back the stuff for the skip? Have you spoke to the parents directly about the kids and them dumping rubbish?
Distinctive binbag has me confused though - I haven't used many that aren't black and bin bag like.

KeepServingTheDrinks · 17/08/2017 00:26

I feel for you, but I do see why 4 kids in a tiny house would be out in the garden as much as possible.

No excuse for the parents invading your space though, but it sounds like you've dealt with that quite robustly.

YouRat · 17/08/2017 00:28

Sounds awful OP. This would drive me insane. YANBU!!!

GreenTulips · 17/08/2017 00:30

Carry on doing it! Too thick to get the message!!

People are cheeky - ignore all balls etc that come in your garden - you don't have to send them back. If they knock ignore!

PersianCatLady · 17/08/2017 00:36

I had to double check then that I had written this post myself and forgotten about it.

I know how you feel OP, it is shit and there is nothing you can do but it feels good to talk about it.

StaplesCorner · 17/08/2017 00:40

My neighbours child threw a broom at my dog earlier, he managed to propel it over a 6 foot fence - strong for a 4 year old - but apparently that's what kids do and how dare I complain!

Did you want to take it any further OP or are you just letting off steam? Have you done anything wth the local authority or police?

KeiraKnightleyActsWithHerTeeth · 17/08/2017 00:42

God they sound annoying OP. Do they own or rent, do you know?

User02 · 17/08/2017 00:47

I really do not understand the conduct of some people. I used to have someone use my bin once it was out for the bin men. The same family have numerous cars and park all over the place even though they have a driveway. They dont even move their cars when bollards are put out to leave the street clear for workmen.
There is a race to park in a disabled place even though there is no disability card displayed.
Others arrange the various bins to try to put people off parking in front of their gardens.
Discussion and Co-operation would ease a lot of stress and ill feeling.

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 17/08/2017 00:53

I'd burst the bloody balls before I threw them back (not legal I know) and pretend they landed on a spike.
I have a CM as a NDN so I'm always sending balls back (intact ) but they ask nicely.

Lock on your bin ?

Bag would be dumped right on their doorstep so when they stepped outside it was there.

PersianCatLady · 17/08/2017 01:02

Did you want to take it any further OP or are you just letting off steam? Have you done anything wth the local authority or police?
I tried to but my NNs (nightmare neighbours) turned it all around and made out that it was all me making them behave like that.

Now they get ahead of me by throwing things into the garden and calling the police and accusing me of theft.

This has happened for the past three summers, still waiting for the 2017 event.

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 17/08/2017 01:12

throwing things into the garden....accusing me of theft
Eh? If you were going to all the effort of scaling their fence to steal their garden articles you'd make a bit more effort to hide it Shock

What do the Police say?
CCTV?

PersianCatLady · 17/08/2017 01:28

What do the Police say?
Basically that they know that the NNs are instigating all the trouble but that they have to be impartial.

If I were you I would have read my post and thought nonsense as if that really happened, but it did and it is ridiculous and I am always waiting for the next ridiculous incident.

PersianCatLady · 17/08/2017 01:29

If you were going to all the effort of scaling their fence to steal their garden articles you'd make a bit more effort to hide it
Not garden articles, broken toys and broken footballs.

They throw it over and say that I stole them and broke them because I got annoyed with their kids kicking the fence all day.

I do get annoyed at that but I wouldn't steal their broken stuff.

sororitynoise · 17/08/2017 08:31

Wow

GreenTulips · 17/08/2017 09:17

Pity those bin bags don't split on the way back? (Tut)

emmyrose2000 · 17/08/2017 09:41

YANBU!

They have entitlement indeed. And arrogance, stupidity, laziness and sheer shitheadedness.

Nancy91 · 17/08/2017 09:44

I have neighbours like this, I have never met such rude people! Can you complain to your council?

lasagnefortea · 17/08/2017 09:59

We had neighbours like this - 6 kids and a mum in a 4 bedroom property. They would stuff the bins to overflowing and the foxes would shred dirty nappies all over the communal space. There's plenty more horror stories but it's such a grim time that I don't want to relive it!

I'd like to tell you something positive that we managed to sort it out, but it was only their eviction that led to the situation being resolved.

CruCru · 17/08/2017 10:01

If you have a wheelie bin, I think you can get a lock for it (the bin opens when it is turned upside down).

Zaphodsotherhead · 17/08/2017 10:03

Can you borrow (to be 'looking after') a large and barky dog? It will stop them coming into your garden (particularly if it is big and loud) and if you can get one that barks savagely when a fence is kicked then that might help?

Only would need to be for a couple of days (ie, return it before they start accusing you of having a 'savage dog that ought to be put down' and the kids start poking it through holes in the fence), but it might make them think twice about coming into the garden - just in case the dog is still there, just lying quietly.

Slimthistime · 17/08/2017 10:04

Sorry but there's every chance they'll keep on like this
I'd have one attempt at a chat with them, then leave it. Get a bin lock and hopefully a higher fence ASAP.

Also if they ring the bell asking for the ball back etc, ignore it. Do you have a mute on the buzzer at all?

missiondecision · 17/08/2017 10:11

I'm sorry you are having ndn troubles and I agree it's bloody annoying.
But.
You sounds like a real pita.
"Our house is bigger, we have more space, they are jealous".
Sounds a bit like tit for that to me.

missiondecision · 17/08/2017 10:11

Tat not that .

ineedwine99 · 17/08/2017 10:27

Good for you OP, i did similar with rubbish ending up in my garden and they soon stopped

sororitynoise · 17/08/2017 10:37

Complain to environmental health and take photos