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AIBU?

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To not have to make other parents feel better about their choices?

5 replies

EmeraldSkies · 16/08/2017 23:04

So, I recently had to move to an area temporarily, and with that had to move my daughter to a new school. I chose another school in a nearby village which, tbh, had a better Ofsted rating, but also much better overall parental satisfaction. When I chose this school many of the other mums in the area (a rather stuck up area tbh) have taken it upon themselves to assume they know better for my child and insist that they can't understand why I made this choice. I've ignored these comments mostly but can't understand what it has got to do with them and can only assume it is because they feel as if I have snubbed their choice for their children. To top it off, one of the mums 'helpfully' posted through my letter box the results of the village school (which I did NOT ask for and are almost, but not quite as good as the neighbouring village). AIBU to think this lot have some vendetta against me making my own choices for my child? It is hurtful because I have never wanted to put roots down in this area anyway and, when I do move, will have to travel to said primary school anyway, therefore I chose one which I felt would be worthwhile doing the journey for! I'm very satisfied with the school, so why do I have to affirm other people's choices to make them feel better about their school? I have never said anything bad about the school but they have taken offence as I have chosen another! Anyone else been in this situation?

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RiotAndAlarum · 17/08/2017 08:18

Ignore it! No matter how you respond, you will look bad. If the person who did it "confronts" you, thank her for the info. Any further pushing, and you can give an "oh, well, it's too late now, and DD is settled."

How do these people have "access" to you, anyway, to keep talking to you about schools?

VanillaSugar · 17/08/2017 08:23

Regard it as flattery that they are so desperate for you and your child to be their friends GrinWink

DeadGood · 17/08/2017 08:24

Good lord, this makes me glad I don't live in a village.

LemonBreeland · 17/08/2017 08:27

I had similar when I moved my DC out of our local village school to another one. People were off with me as they seemed to think it was a judgement on their choice of school for their DC. Frankly I didn't care where they sent their DC, I just wanted to move my DC as it suited them.

thecatsthecats · 17/08/2017 08:55

My mum got ludicrously defensive when one of our neighbours chose the other secondary over the one everyone else did. She still harps on about it now - I'm 28.

Don't be the same as these kind of people, OP. Have more in your life to care about than things like this.

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