To want at least one day off a week together

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Hubby and I both work. I'm part time and he's full time. We can't afford childcare so he's off when I'm in work and vice versa. My parents have the kids one day a week but our schedules mean we will have no days off together at all! I've only just returned to work from maternity leave and I'm gutted! We are currently trying to come up with some solutions such as me condensing my hours or DH even taking a demotion. Anyone work opposite shifts to your oh? How do you cope?

We r in same boat! Ds1 now 5, been doing this since he was 9 months (my return from mat leave). No suggestions I'm afraid :( it's really crap, but we will get there in the end. Hopefully some day his shifts will change - I think when ds2 is in school (next year) things will b better! Hang in there!

We're in the same boat and it honestly sucks and it's hard but the positives for us really make it worth it. I work condensed hours so 12 and 14 hour shifts meaning we don't see each other at all on my days at work to sleep. We make it work by making sure we do nice things for each other like have a cup of tea waiting when the other gets home. Making sure we split all housework and childcare and using annual leave wisely. It's extremely hard but if it's not a permanent solution I'd definitely recommend it

I also think it makes a difference what hours you work because I know it only works for us because when my partner has his day to work we have the evening as he finishes early. That at least makes it feel like we get some quality time I think if he were to work long days too it wouldn't work for us

We have some time together but not much. You have a difficult situation with no days at all. That is going to be tough. No doubt at all.

We book a babysitter every few weeks for a night out. Even two hours makes a difference. Also make sure to take the odd days holiday rather than using weeks at a time. Spread them out.

My sister does this. Every four weeks her partner has to work a saturday so has a day off in the week, so every four weeks they get a day off together. Once her child starts school it can be changed.would your dh taking a demotion not mean ypu have less money?

We have this, although we tend to manage one or two days a fortnight together so maybe not so bad. It is rubbish on the weeks when one of us is working weekends. You will get used to it and enjoy the days you have.
I condensed my hours into longer days, is this an option for either of you?