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Men sending dick pics to women via Air Drop.

26 replies

HelenaDove · 16/08/2017 18:26

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FFS! Its the modern equivilent of jumping out from behind a bush and flashing someone.

It shouldnt be happening via dating sites either but this isnt even that.

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lubeybooby · 16/08/2017 18:29

I've been saying this for years. Unsolicited dick pics are just flashing and not acceptable ever - dating, airdrop... whatever the means. Urgh

It needs to be made an official offence imho exactly like flashing is.

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HelenaDove · 16/08/2017 18:31

Apparently there are blokes on a fb page laughing about this and telling women to get over themselves. Hmm

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AlmostAJillSandwich · 16/08/2017 18:34

They wouldnt be laughing if women reported them to police. It absolutely SHOULD be a crime because the receiver has no way of consenting to view the sexual content or not because they dont know what it is until they open a message see it.

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HelenaDove · 16/08/2017 18:38

I agree Sandwich.

It needs to be taken far more seriously than it is.

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PollyFlint · 16/08/2017 23:29

It is totally the same as flashing, in my opinion. It's effectively the same thing done for exactly the same motive.

I don't use AirDrop but I've had a dick pic DMed to me on Twitter (and then after I'd blocked the sender and expressed annoyance, I had another follower ask me loads of jokey questions about it, clearly thinking it was all a hilarious jape, and yet another follower tell me I was massively overreacting because there's nothing disgusting about a man's body so we are being offensive if we think there's anything wrong with being sent a photo of a total stranger's dribbling post-wank bellend).

AirDrop is even more horrible because the idea is clearly that the person who sent it will see your reaction when you receive the image. It's sexual harassment and it should be treated as flashing.

lubeybooby · 17/08/2017 09:17

The blokes laughing should consider what they would do if their daughter or girlfriend or mum was flashed. They'd hate it and go crazy, call the man a pervert, demand the police find him, warn other people not to go to the area where the flashing occured etc.

I have no idea why they think this is any different. It's revolting.

Aeroflotgirl · 17/08/2017 09:19

Well it sorts the wheat from the chaff. Totally unacceptable though.

reportPost · 17/08/2017 09:24

How is this different to accidentally seeing a penis on the internet?

There are several innocuous sounding terms which on the second or third page of images.google would burn your eyes.

Flashing requires physical presence whereas sending an image isn't such a violation as it is done remotely. Are Airdrop and email / MMS the same or is airdrop worse because of the fact the sender and recipient need to be closer?

EnthusiasmIsDisturbed · 17/08/2017 09:25

Totally agree it's a form of flashing

Yet on here will often see post after post laughing about this and stories of witty replies

Why when you have just been totally disrespected call them out for being the creeps that they are a so called witty reply is just playing along with their game why is it a joking matter

We need to teach boys this is totally unacceptable and girls not to feel pressured into sending photos of themselves

VikingVolva · 17/08/2017 09:27

AirDrop is quite different though. Because presumably they are doing this to anyone nearby with a female-looking name for their deceive.

Don't get me wrong, unsolicited dick pix are bad.

But I think it's an aggravated situation when they are sent just to anyone nearby.

The person had to be fairly close though. So when the notification comes up (which contains a pic preview so you damned well have to see it) screenshot, and sag loudly "I cannot believe I have been sent an offensive communication. I have screenshotted and will report to the police. Anyone else want to see it?" and let anyone nearby see it.

If it happens to your DD, train them to do the same, but announce loudly "Someone's sent an indecent image to a child. Anyone know where the nearest police station is"

AuntieStella · 17/08/2017 09:29

"How is this different to accidentally seeing a penis on the internet? "

Because Airdrop comes up on your phone screen, with a preview of the pic and you have to select whether to accept or reject. You've not just accidentally seen an image, it has been sent to you in a way that means you have to see it.

Gorgosparta · 17/08/2017 09:29

Flashing requires physical presence whereas sending an image isn't such a violation as it is done remotely.

And its still showing your dick to people who havent asked to see it.

Its disgusting.

pigeondujour · 17/08/2017 09:30

Honestly people that come on threads to justify why this shit isn't actually that bad are so weird. What a hill to choose to die on.

AuntieStella · 17/08/2017 09:31

"Flashing requires physical presence"

So does Airdrop

30ft max, probably much nearer

AuntieStella · 17/08/2017 09:37

"Are Airdrop and email / MMS the same or is airdrop worse because of the fact the sender and recipient need to be closer?"

Yes, and also because you don't need to know the recipient's number or eaddress to send via Airdrop.

EnthusiasmIsDisturbed · 17/08/2017 09:42

Someone who sends an airdrop picture of their penis isn't accidentally doing this

They are making a choice

Yes agree wtf defend such actions unless you send pictures likes this yourself or know men who do for a laugh

chips4teaplease · 17/08/2017 09:42

"Flashing requires physical presence" So does Airdrop 30ft max probably much nearer
You don't need to know the recipient's number or eaddress to send via Airdrop.

This is really intimidating. I'd hate to think that some man within feet of my dd or dgd could send them a picture of his penis. It's a horrible, scary thought. And the woman has no redress, presumably? Can these messages be traced?

VIkingVolva · 17/08/2017 09:48

Traced?

Possibly not, because IIRC it comes up with the name of the device it's sent from and that might not be enough to go on.

You could always film who is nearby, and that combined with device name might be enough if a lead, but I don't know what priority the police would put on investigating it.

It is probably worth having Airdrop set to 'off' or 'contacts only' (out it in everyone only at the times you are expecting someone not on your contacts list to send you something, and remember to set it back afterwards)

VikingVolva · 17/08/2017 09:50

Let's try the past bit with better punctuation!

It is probably worth having Airdrop set to 'off' or 'contacts only' (put it in 'everyone' only at the times you are expecting someone, who is not on your contacts list, to send you something; and remember to set it back afterwards)

dollydaydream114 · 17/08/2017 09:54

How is this different to accidentally seeing a penis on the internet?

Because one is something you accidentally stumbled upon, with no direct intent from you or the owner of the picture that you would see it, and one is someone deliberately sending you something and prompting you to look at it for the sole purpose of harassment.

It is the same as the difference between you accidentally walking in on a man getting changed and seeing him naked by mistake, and you hearing a man say "Hey!" at you in the street and turning around to see him waving his dick at you.

BrandNewHouse · 17/08/2017 11:08

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EnthusiasmIsDisturbed · 17/08/2017 11:14

Again women and girls having to change their behaviour so men can't behave or get the chance to behave as badly Hmm

Let's work on stopping this and putting the onus on those responsible for their own actions

TrojanWhore · 17/08/2017 11:21

Well quite.

It's such a bore to remember to consider what information you are making public online, and what reciprocal access you are granting people to your tech. Not.

It is not wrong to expect people to take avoid taking responsibility for their own cyber security, at least to the extent of understanding what features are on their devices and setting the security levels they want. Everyone should do this,

Of course people should be educated not to be criminals. But centuries of history have not shown a single offence that I can think of where that has been adequate to stop offending.

Taking sensible online security measures - which include checking your privacy settings, plus rechecking them periodically in care a service provider has made changes - should be as basic as looking from right to left before crossing the road.

BrandNewHouse · 17/08/2017 11:44

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reportPost · 17/08/2017 11:52

BrandNewHouse

I am responsible for financial loss if I give out my PIN to someone and they empty my account. Yes, I see parallels in having open AirDrop and not.

I think that this is entirely different to "you shouldn't have been walking down there, by yourself, in the dark, after a drink, wearing that ..." etc. Seeing a photo of a penis and sexual assault are not the same and I suspect any other victim of actual assault would agree.