To not move in cafe

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Cafe has only 6 other people in it, loads of free tables (Just counted 11 free tables) for 2/4 people.

I am on my own sitting at the only 'sofa table' drinking tea & MNetting. I am sitting on a 2 seat sofa & have a table and another 2 seat sofa facing me.

Family with children (around 6/7) have just come in and the mother declared loudly (loud enough for me to here) how selfish it is to hog a table for 4 when a person is on their own. She is now sitting with her family at one of the free tables but keeps looking over

They want me to move! AIBU to stay on the comfy sofa (for another 2 hours) and ignore the death stares?

As there are more 4 seater tables than there are parties requiring them, no YANBU. If there were groups needing seats or you'd been asked not to sit there, you would BU, but neither of those things are true so you're fine. You both have a want not a need to sit on the 4 seater sofa.

Of course YANBU but you realise according to sofa war rules you now have to stay there until she gives up and buggers off?

If you go before she does, she will have won

Ooh there's some spam in the cafe.

The cafe should have some single comfy seats with smaller tables. Loads do where I live - in the kind of city where students 'work' in a cafe for hours by themselves, and they'd all take the double seat sofas if they could.

Aridane "Not sure I would have the nerve to take over a four seater configuration all by myself!"

Even if the cafe was pretty much empty? Why not?

I'd lie down with my feet up whilst smiling smugly at her. Cheeky mare.

Are the children smallish and she might be wanting them to use the sofas as trampolines like they do in one of the pubs I go to?

So because you've got a comfy seat she feels she's entitled to it?
It's not your fault you were there first, i often have coffee alone and read or whatever. I'd not move unless there were no other seats with enough spaces for a bigger group.
I'd happily let people sit opposite on the other setee. But if they had kids I'd leave - finally got all 4 of mine off to school so coffee and chill is just that
Alone
When my kids go back to school next week this will be me 😊😊😊

pekicac sod off.

Now if she had asked politely then I would of moved, however because she was rude dont even listen to her and dont move.

So you're sitting at a table for 4 (2 two-seater sofas) and she's sitting at a table for 4?

It's nothing to do with you "hogging" a table for 4, it's just about the sofas.

YADNBU - she's just being entitled !!
Cheeky cow.

Ring a mate (who'll play along) and have an extremely loud and obnoxious conversation about how comfortable you are, and how gutted you bet your mate is that they haven't got a sofa all to themselves where ever it is they're sat.

YANBU

there's spare space, no idea what her gripe is.

Op don't move or you'll be letting g loads of people down

Unless she had asked politely -which she did not - I would not be moving either!

Well I personally wouldn't sit there alone as it kinda does 'hog' all of a big seating arrangement. Or if really quiet then I'd sit there, but offer to move if a bigger group came in. But not if they immediately started shooting daggers and being arsey before I'd had a chance to react.

In reverse I think it would be really nice of someone to offer the space and I might or might not take them up on it. Probably not if the other tables were big enough etc.

But it can be really annoying when the best and most comfy seats are usually set up for groups - but then I suppose they spend more money.

I think solos and couples should have comfy chairs too!

Make sure you keep moving between all available sofa seats. Every time you get up to move she'll get her hopes up.

But I can be mean.

For all she knows you're waiting for a larger party and should have kept quiet anyway.

Op please sit where you like! Hope you are able to enjoy yourself and not be bothered by her death stares. There is no rule to say who can sit where. Plenty of times I've been thinking it would be nice to sit on a sofa, not by the bogs, by the window, whatever and there's one or a whole gang of people. I just think "oh well, maybe next time". I don't make a fuss. That's life, innit? That's what most rational people think.

I do prefer the sofa - I'd only move if there was only a table for two spare - I might of thought the same as the mother, but my mumblings would be kept very low...

For those who think the OP was hogging the space for four, depending on the configuration, other people could easily sit opposite her, two, if they were together. The OP didn't say she expected no one else to sit down, just that she wouldn't move.

Of course it's not rude. Its first come out first serve with sofa table