To feel hopeless

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Having an anxiety attack but no RL people to talk to at this hour.

Feel crappy that my ExH kept all the mutual friends and his own, so now I have no one.

My family are constantly asking after him or messaging/popping in to see him when they can. Feels like they are picking him over me, and they're just stuck with me because I'm related to them

I know I can't tell anyone who to be friends with and wouldn't try. Just getting to me that I feel so alone and his merrily carrying on.

All the friends that were mine before married became joint friends, that now seem to be his friends

AIBU to be upset?

YANBU, we all feel hopeless sometimes. Have you told your family how you are feeling?

YADNBU.
If you tell your family to stop asking after him, would they respect that?

Definitely not being unreasonable.

Was with ex for years and he took all friends, I managed to keep one. It hurt when my parents used to talk to him when they saw him felt like they should stick by me sort of thing.

How long have you been split for?
Only because after about 8 months it became more or a quick hi in passing and now its a nod of acknowledgement.

As for the friends, if you have kids go to some baby group's, if not try different activities, you could learn a new skill while making some new friends.

Hope you feel better soon, coming from someone who also suffers from anxiety I do undertand how hard it is.
Sending hugs xx

Thank you so much for replies and support, it's lovely. Am feeling better for sleep!

We've been separated two years so I find it hard that my family still so friendly with them. He's going to stay for the weekend with DD soon which I'm feeling weird about! Have tried talking to DM but she says she doesn't understand the problem!

Am actively looking for more things to do with DD to make new friends 😊