FB Holiday Season Wankers

[GirlOnATrainToShite]

I know I know it's FB blah blah get a life etc etc.

BUT seriously why oh why do holidays turn perfectly normal people into complete narcissistic wankers.

FB feed FULL of 10 or more friends posting about 20 + photos a day of their bloody holidays.

In the "olden" days anyone would avoid looking at someone's holiday snaps like the plague but now it's perfectly acceptable to brag all over social bloody media about it. Yes one or two photos are lovely and I am happy to see people having a great time but seriously do I need a blow by blow account of your bloody holiday? I would have come with you if so, get off FB and enjoy yourself.

Maybe this is compounded by seeing a close friend yday who was avoiding FB because of this as she had to cancel her holiday due to cancer diagnosis.

But another friend tonight has posted in one of the background show type posts "waiting to fly home, thanks for all your lovely comments, glad you enjoyed all the photos, we've had an amazing holiday" as if it was a show for my benefit.

Maybe I am a grumpy cow and I need to stay away from FB but god when are people going to get over themselves.

I totally get where you’re coming from.
I came off FB about four months ago and I feel so liberated now. I don’t have to look at any more narcissistic posts anymore. Best thing I ever did.

Just scroll past them if you're not interested.

I really like seeing my friends' holiday photos and taking photos is integral part of holiday enjoyment for a lot of people. People used to send postcards to their friends from their holiday, now they post updates on Facebook instead. I think it's fine.

You basically sound like you don't really like these people very much anyway, in which case just unfollow them, which you can obviously do without unfriending and offending them. You can control what appears in your newsfeed. I regularly mute things on Facebook that I don't want to see.

I'm very sorry to hear about your friend's diagnosis, which is horrible for her and upsetting for you ... but other people's lives do go on, and they're entitled to share their holiday pics on their own page.

Yanbu. Was everyone this narcissistic pre Facebook and just hid it better?

Why announce to the world that your house is empty? I don't even tell friends when I'm on holiday. Next door know as they feed our cats.

YANBU. I think I might switch Facebook off.

I think to some extent you are BU,I for one use Facebook as a place to store pics online for free (my account is set to totally private) I upload most of my holiday pics to there in one go usually. Not to show off but usually to an album to store them. Also is the point of Facebook not to connect and chat and share what you are upto in your life with friends you maybe don't see very often?? If no then what the hell os it for and what are you allowe to post on there then?!

I think hundreds of holiday photos over the period of two weeks is excessive - and boring.

I'm glad I can see them and scroll past on FB rather than go to someone's house for a SLIDE SHOW of their cruise 😂( 70s kid ! )

I remember slide shows 😂😂

I love seeing my family and friend's holiday photos. If they start posting too many then I just scroll past.

I understand though that a photo is just a snap shot in time, you have no idea what is going on in people's lives and most people have their own cross to bear. No one gets away without some kind of trauma and difficulties. Comparison is the thief of joy and all that.

Why announce to the world that your house is empty?

Because my security is tight and the people on my FB who know my address aren't going to burgle me because they are my friends and family. Not everyone has FB friends who they don't know well enough to trust not to burgle them.

I agree with you. It's the volume that gets me. 1 or 2 photos a day is good. Anymore than that and I don't look. It's boring!

YANBU. If we go on holiday, I don't post photos (if I decide to in the first place) until we've got home. Mainly for safety, as I read a story a while back about someone who announced on social media that they were going on holiday and their house got burgled. It really made me think.

A family member constantly posts a blow by blow of her entire life, holidays are even worse. I just don't understand why, it's like she literally spends more time posting about the holiday on fb, than they do actually enjoying it.

I don't mind the occasional photo or post but tagging yourself wherever you go as if people care about your every move is just odd.

Probably best to 'unfollow' OP. They don't know you have done it if you do that, and you won't need to see stuff.

I have unfollowed 5 of my fb friends. 2 continually rant about politics, 2 continually post stuff about their kids, 10-15 comments a day, and 5 or 6 pics! And the other one posts 20-25 posts about how her soul cries every day about the death of George Michael. God she doesn't half go on, like he was her fucking husband or something.

YANBU though. People carping on about their hols, and posting 20 pics a day pisses me off too.

U2, I don't trust anyone. Ever. Bad childhood means the world is a bad place, full of bad people. If your own parents can try to destroy you, why would I trust anyone?

I agree, also dont mind admitting that i am jealous of the holidaymakers, we cant even afford a staycation this year .

Mate put 140 photos from a week at centre parks.

140 fucking photos.

Of her kids in a canoe, in the pancake house or whatever. Same photo, just X 140.

I give up.

I agree. However, we've not gone on holiday this year due to a mountain of house DIY we have to do. I'm getting holiday envy every time I go on social media

I don't have FB so i am missing out on all these holiday photos so that's a bonus.

But it must be better than being shown the pictures, very slowly with added commentary in person when they get back from holiday.

I will occasionally send a picture from my phone to a friend from holiday if something is particularly interesting or amusing.

Was everyone this narcissistic pre Facebook and just hid it better?

This, I think, is one of the profound questions of our time. I can never quite get my head round the answer. Certainly, I find it all rather bizarre and it has made me look at some people in a very different light!

If you don't like it scroll post. If you don't like them, delete them.

Sometimes I like looking at my friends holiday photos, sometimes I don't want to and just scroll past.

If you don't like what people put on their own Facebook maybe just delete Facebook altogether.

I can't really see the problem tbh. Live and let live and all that. There's nothing to say that you have to spend an age looking through the hundreds of versions of the same shot that people insist on posting (I always wonder why they can't find the best of that particular photo burst and just post that one rather than them all). I like seeing what my friends/family/acquaintances are up to, where they have been and am happy that they've had a nice time.

Fair enough, the timing of your friend's post wasn't great considering what your other friend is going through but there is a chance that she didn't see it.

YABU

Facebook is to share and connect with friends and family ... if you don't want to see what has been shared then either block them, unfollow them or delete them from your FB.

Also FB is the easiest place to store pictures - not just to share with people - but as an easily accessible place to keep all your pictures. If I am away and have taken a lot of pictures of an event/activity I will usually upload them all to FB because I can then delete them from my phone (to free up much needed memory) and then when I get home I can go through and edit them down to the best ones though I rarely actually get round to it, the intention is there

I love seeing pictures of people's holidays and I say that as somebody who had to cancel her planned holiday because my husband had to take unpaid leave to care for me after my cancer diagnosis.