To be irrationally irritated that she looks at my forehead

[Happytobefree17]

My colleague that is.

She's probably just shy and I know IABU but she has never once looked me in the eye in the 4 years I've known her. Her eyes seem to be fixed in a spot on my forehead.

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Yes, YABU. Some people find eye contact extremely difficult for all sorts of reasons. It's not personal and I'm sure you accidentally do small things that annoy people too, equally through no fault of your own.

I don't look at most people when I'm talking to them, it freaks me out! My boss used to go mad because I wouldn't look her in the eye haha

YABU

I had a teacher like this as a teenager, turns out She had a difficulty wth her eyes which meant she couldn't fix her gaze on the object she was looking at - sounds a bit confusing, but true, and can't think of another way of explaining it. There could be loads of reasons your colleague doesnt look at you, none r likely to be for the purpose of annoying you. Sorry OP, I'd just try and get over it! YAB(a bit)U.

I can't do eye contact, I try and fail, it makes me so uncomfortable and embarrassed.

I just did a presentation today at work about how to kindly consider those with conditions such as autism in the workplace...and this is why I felt it was needed.
What does it matter if she's never looked you in the eye? Some people find that really hard.

Ask her if she can see it.....your unicorn horn retracts during the day but sometimes shows just a little...

I hate looking people in the eye, it makes me incredibly uncomfortable. I don't know if I have autism (gave kids who have, highly suspect I do but too scared to ask the doctor to refer me)

I look at people's mouths instead.

So YABU, you don't know why, she probably is the same with everyone. Unless that spot on your forehead is actually a spot.

I can't do eye contact (I'm autistic) and I try to but then end up looking really intense which is worse!

I've had a lot of eye surgery and my eyes are a bit wonky. I hate looking people in the eye, it makes me feel ill. I do make the effort as I think it's important to face these things but could do without people judging where I'm looking! She might not even realise -sometimes I see photos where I thought I was looking straight at the camera but am actually gazing elsewhere!

YABU now shh

I had a teacher like this as a teenager, turns out She had a difficulty wth her eyes which meant she couldn't fix her gaze on the object she was looking at - sounds a bit confusing, but true, and can't think of another way of explaining it
I had this too - it was a bit awkward when she was asking me something but got my name wrong so I had no idea she was talking to me! (Best teacher ever though)
I'm autistic & struggle a bit with eye contact but I've found that there are loads of people who don't do eye contact and I really doubt they're all autistic too. Just accept that some people don't always feel the need to gaze into your eyes!

Unless that spot on your forehead is actually a spot.

Yes. Sorry I wasn't very clear in my OP. I have a permanent spot on my forehead and I feel like she is focussing on that.

I accept I am BU and a bit sensitive.

I have a friend with autism who struggles with eye contact. Perfectly capable person in many respects, but making and maintaining eye contact is very difficult.

I look at mouths. I find eye contact often too intense, plus I think I have a slight hearing problem.

At least she's looking at you.
I work with someone who keeps her eyes closed the whole time when she's speaking to anyone. Of course I understand that she must have a problem with eye contact and wouldn't dream of mentioning it to her.
But it does feel weird responding to what she says with the usual non verbal nods, facial expressions etc when she can't see me doing it.

I've trained myself to look people in the eye when I'm listening but I can't do it when I'm the one talking. I don't know why it just takes too much concentration, I can just about manage looking at them vaguely in the face.