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To think my landlord is a bit rude

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Regalparade · 15/08/2017 09:58

When ever she comes round which is very often right now she 'tells me' when she is coming round. She doesn't ask me when is a good time to come or if she can, she just informs me when she is coming and that is that.
She is vague with her times too. For instance she will say I'm coming round sometime this week to do xyz. I will come home from work to find her car outside and she has let herself in.
A couple of weeks ago she came round and hovered over tradesman doing work in the garden. She was here everyday in the week for hours at a time. I locked the door from the inside and left the key in as I was sick of her letting herself in when the back gate was open, so she actually had no need to be in my house.
She has just texted me to say I'm coming round tomorrow can you leave the key out the door so I can get in.
I'm moving in two weeks so I'm expecting more of her for quotes for work on the house. (Nice to know she hasn't updated the house in years and years but as soon as we are going she starts)
I find it really rude to just come round when it suits to my home instead of asking for an appropriate time. She is retired and lives a five min drive away so not like she is restricted to when she can come. But I work and have a family and I hate coming home to just find her in the house. She always overstays her welcome too. For instance she came over to wait on someone coming to give her a quote for installing a smoke alarm. The guy never turned up but she stayed an hour just incase. This was at 7pm at night when I wanted to relax.
I know I'm moving in two weeks but I find it really really irritating. I don't want to cause a fuss incase she makes things hard for us when we move.

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Lucysky2017 · 15/08/2017 10:35

That's ridiculous and 5 quotes!
My son is letting his house until next month and he (and I) have never been round once without permission and only then because the tenants wanted him to remove his new sofa as they had their own and we went at exactly the time we agreed with them. It is their home.

I think an annual inspection (to make sure no one is growing cannabis in there and has not moved in 10 Romanians or trashed the place) is okay and often allowed for in the tenancy and showing new people round so you don't have an empty period between tenancies is okay but this coming in whenever she chooses is well out of order.
I expect you will be glad to be rid of all that when you move into your own place shortly.

DrinkFeckArseGirls · 15/08/2017 10:36

Tell her something went missing last time she was at your on her own.

Maelstrop · 15/08/2017 10:47

Tell her to sod off until you move out. She has been acting illegally by coming in when you're out if you haven't given permission.

Willow2017 · 15/08/2017 10:48

You don't need to say 'why' apart from "No sorry that doesn't work for me. You can come at x time. By noe i would say" what you have been doing is illegal and you are not getting back in till we leave including the garden". As she is obviously in no hurry for work to be done she can wait 2 weeks.

You really need to stand up to this, why isn't your dh dealing with her too?

lashy · 15/08/2017 10:48

Like you said; you are moving in two weeks anyway, so try not to waste anymore energy stressing about her now.
In the meantime; when she gives notice of a visit, you could perhaps tell her [politely but firmly] that you need her to be more specific as, due your own move, you need to be able to plan around her visits. Maybe she has simply not realised how inconsiderate she has been?
Good luck with your move.

DownstairsMixUp · 15/08/2017 10:54

I remember this post to. Lots of people told you just to say no to her and I think you'll get the same advice this time...

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Regalparade · 15/08/2017 11:02

Dh actually thought I was unreasonable for putting the key in the door. He works until late so doesn't have to deal with her comings and goings.
I've actually drove home some days expecting her to be gone and she's still there, I've turned round and drove away because I can't be arsed coming in from work and engaging with her. She has stayed until 6pm some days. She gave notice but not of times and I thought staying until 6pm in the garden was very rude.
One time I just didn't reply to her message and she let herself in anyway.
She has already booked the workie to come and do the quote.
I would rather she buggered off for two weeks to allow us to get on with the move and she can sort all this once we are out, I'm going to ask her if she can wait until we are moved out.

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ThymeLordIsSpartacus · 15/08/2017 11:05

Bloody hell I give up!

nursy1 · 15/08/2017 11:05

I'm a Landlord. I think your sounds like she doesn't realise that although the building is hers this is YOUR home and she should treat it as such. The law says ( apart from emergencies) you have to give at least 24 hours notice before entering a tenants house ( I usually give a week).
We had some work on the roof done a while back and needed random access to the lofts on two upstairs properties but I gave loads weeks notice and sent vouchers by way of compensation afterwards. A bit of give and take therefore is reasonable. She is taking liberties. You only have two weeks til you move out. You could just put up with it or you could find your tenancy agreement, quote her the relevant passages and ask her to give proper notice.

eatabagofdicks · 15/08/2017 11:17

Why do you keep posting this? Either tell her no or put up with it.

Willow2017 · 15/08/2017 11:56

Arrange for her to come round on your dh' s day off then bugger off and leave him to it. Just cos it doesn't affect him he doesn't care.

Get a back bone and tell her "no". It's really simple and its your legal right. Why are you allowing her to keep doing this? You can't complain if you are allowing it. You should have changed the locks after the first time. Too late now.

martiniwini · 15/08/2017 12:06

YANBU, good job you're leaving. Hate intrusive landlords. Maybe better to go with a letting agency next time that manages the property themselves. They never come round unless you ring them at least 5 times with a life-endangering problem.

martiniwini · 15/08/2017 12:07

Sorry just seen you've bought a new house.... hurrah! Alls well that ends well

ImNotWhoYouThinkIAmOhNo · 15/08/2017 12:51

I've been a landlord, and your landlord is breaking the law. She can write what she likes in the tenancy agreement, which you no doubt signed, but nothing in the tenancy agreement overrides the law. You can refuse her entry, unless it's an emergency - such as dealing with gas or water leak. Getting quotes and wanting to plant flowers are not emergencies!

pigsDOfly · 15/08/2017 12:57

So many posters took the time and trouble to advise you about your right what to do when you posted this before OP? Why have you just ignored what we all said and posted again?

Do you think you'll get some magic solution from a different set of poster or do you just like the sympathy?

TheViceOfReason · 15/08/2017 13:02

Why are you ignoring all the advice you've been given?

Either say to your landlord "all these comings and going are a real inconvenience so i cannot agree to any more. You'll have to arrange them all for once my tenancy has ended".

Or accept it.

You are under no obligation to go along with any of her wishes.

stolemyusername · 15/08/2017 23:59

Tell her no! If you have to pay another months rent then the house is still really 'yours' until the final day of the rent period, so assuming it's still 'yours' for another 2 weeks once you have moved out (so she can't get another tenant in while you're still paying), she can have access then.

IneedaMagnum · 16/08/2017 00:12

You posted before, I remember the thread. Rather than take the advice you have chosen to ignore it and come on here again a few weeks later to moan about the same thing. You're being a martyr. Sort it out or stop complaining ffs. Apologies if it wasn't you but it was wasn't it

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