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Accused of damaging holiday home - AIBU

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bigsnugglebunny · 14/08/2017 23:24

We have just spent a week in a friend's holiday caravan, we paid the going rate (not mates rates) and a £50 damages deposit.

The van is absolutely lovely, we stayed earlier this year for a weekend too. It's set up as "autism friendly" and as our son has autism, it has been a lovely calm week.

We left the van exactly as we found it, and stripped beds, made sure it was clean and tidy so they could check in the next family quickly.

While we were staying there however, we discovered an open box of toiletries under the bed in the children's room - it contained hair dyes, razor blades, hair straighteners etc. Luckily our son hadn't had these, so we put the box in the master bedroom wardrobe, and I intended to mention it to my friend when she's back from her holiday abroad.

I received this message, this evening from her family member who is meant to be cleaning and looking after the van while she is away:

"Hello, my name is xxx and I am xxx's (random family member). She is away right now so I am looking after the caravan while she is away.
Thank you for leaving money (we left the remaining balance in an envelope for her) but there has been some damage done, a tear in the kitchen vinyl and large stains on the living area carpet and stool. Xxx will contact you on Friday when she is home."

There were no stains, and there was definitely no tear in the vinyl while we were there. We left it absolutely as it was. So I have no idea what to say or do now really. I have written a reply, but I don't want to send it in case I'm being hot headed.

This is my reply so far:

"Hi, thank you for your message.

Do you have photos of this alleged damage, because when we checked our we saw nothing amiss, and as far as we could see it was as it had been when we arrived. We certainly would have noticed if we had ripped the vinyl.

Having discussed with my partner, we wholeheartedly dispute the claim of damage, and as this is our second stay in as many weeks, we actually take offence at it because for a second time we made sure that the beds were stripped, toilets bleached, carpets hoovered, plenty of loo roll left for future guests and the van left as we found it. Including our unused and undated entertainment passes for the next guests.

I will be speaking to xx when she is home anyway about the box containing razors, hair dye and other hazardous items that was left under the bed in the children's room. This potential danger was missed by whoever was cleaning the caravan. That box is in the master bedroom wardrobe now, out of harms way."

I haven't got anything else. Am at a bit of a loss.

AIBU to have no idea what to do now? I'm anxious anyway, so this has set me off worrying if I missed these things when we left. What should I do?

OP posts:
Allthebestnamesareused · 15/08/2017 14:29

I suspect they have damaged it after moving in and are trying to blame it on you.

Do you need to engage with the family member at all and just contact the owner direct.

Branleuse · 15/08/2017 14:36

I think your reply is fine

whinesalot · 15/08/2017 14:58

When can you speak directly to your friend?

Shadow666 · 15/08/2017 15:11

Your friends maybe know about the rip already. It might have been there a while. Id just wait and talk to them when they get back.

swingofthings · 15/08/2017 15:11

Indeed, I would also just speak with your friend now. For all you know, she has a totally different take on the matter.

HeebieJeebies456 · 15/08/2017 15:35

she said she knew it was under the kids beds but thought it was toys! So if she can miss a box load of razors under a child's bed, she might well have missed the Lino previously too

The kind of damage she's referring to is considered 'wear and tear' Hmm

My guess is that she's renting it out on the sly in between booked guests, or someone is staying/spending some time there.
Those were their toiletries you found and she's bluffing.

Her secret guest has probably done the damage....and they/she don't want to pay for it.
Seeing as she failed to record this in her log, along with the box of 'toys' that was left previous to your arrival....she's probably kept quiet so she can blame it on the next guests.

Speak to your friend about it.

Decaffstilltastesweird · 15/08/2017 15:44

I think the response you sent was good. My guess would be the same as pps; she's been a bit over-zealous with her check she as she's not used to doing it. Hopefully your friend will be able to sort things when she gets back.

bigsnugglebunny · 15/08/2017 15:54

I hope so too. My friend is back on Friday, so hopefully I can speak to her then. I am going to leave it at that with the family member - because I don't know them, and you're quite right, my friend may have a very different take on things. All I know is that the damage was not done by us, and if it had been I would have immediately messaged or mentioned it and not left it to be found.

I am really hoping that it doesn't spell the end of our friendship, she's a relatively new friend (about 18 months) but our children attend the same school, and both are autistic so we do a few extra curricular activities together and gave an awful lot of mutual friends. That and I like her a lot, I find it quite hard to find friends.

OP posts:
whinesalot · 16/08/2017 09:48

Did the cleaner realise that you were good friends with the owner?

bigsnugglebunny · 16/08/2017 13:08

Update:

Well after all that, I had a very apologetic message just now - saying that the rip in the Lino had been made by my friend and her dog's crate. It had just been missed previously apparently.

She is going to see if the stain has dried up when the current guests check out... but I am still no clearer on what the stain is, as it apparently has no colour and is just a dark patch. I have a sneaking suspicion that it is the same dark patch that I can see on the photos on the Facebook page for the caravan (pre our visit) - and it's in all my photos too. But it is just a bit where the carpet hasn't been walked on at all and it looks darker.

My partner thinks there isn't a stain, and that it was made up to make the tear look more likely to have been our doing - in a sort of "well they did this too!" kind of way.

I have been upset. I do have ASD myself and over think and get anxious about all sorts of things. It's mostly been me worrying about the thought that my friend would think we were the sort of people who do damage and then don't say anything about it to try and get away with it.

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OlennasWimple · 16/08/2017 14:07

Glad it's worked out OK, OP

JessieMcJessie · 16/08/2017 16:12

Good result. Family member sounds over-zealous, your friend will probably agree that there is no "stain". Sure that it won't affect your friendship. Glad you had a lovely holiday.

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