To have my leaving do when I'm actually able to make it.....

[JulietNeverMetRomeo]

So I'm leaving my job for a few reasons and one of them is my boss and their attitude towards me. Myself and another colleague are leaving around the same time and thought it would be a good idea to join up the leaving do, which will be a shared lunch where everyone brings in a dish. My boss discussed this and then sent out an invite saying it's 'Juliet and Colleagues leaving do' in the title but it's on a day that I don't work. I told my boss to remove my name from the invite and they refused saying they would verbally update people on the day to inform them I'm not coming. I'm very close to putting a grievance in against my boss because their behaviour is appalling at times. WWYD?

I had thought about emailing everyone, I'm just anxious about organising something else. I might just avoid doing anything during the day so can avoid my boss getting involved.

We discussed the dates I could make and she went ahead and did it anyway, it definitely wasn't an error.

Lol my other colleague basically hates everyone in the office and doesn't want the leaving do.

Can you do that 'propose new time' thing in outlook?

Yes, I'd mbe pissed off!

what an arse your boss is. i wouldn't say a word. she'll have to explain why you aren't there. if anyone asks just bluntly say that your boss scheduled it for a day she knew you couldn't make.

how about you and other colleague go out for a drink / coffee. just a bit of closure and a way to say 'fuck you all'.

Yeah, Id say both of you don't turn up and make sure everyone knows why. Go out yourselves, have a drink and congratulate each other on your lucky escape

My colleague is in the office that day so will definitely have to attend. I think I feel upset that someone I've worked so hard for would treat me like that.

I would send the email to all invitees asap, keep it polite but don't apologise. Personally I would not try to organise anything else - fuck 'em.

"I don't understand why your boss is involved in your leaving do at all, I;ve not seen this before. "

It's quite common for the boss to organise a leaving do or for a colleague to do it but to check that the boss and the person leaving are both available. If it's a drink at the office there's sometimes a speech by the boss.

An old boss of mine tried to merge my leaving do with one of my superiors' temporary leaving - she was only going on a sabbatical, but she was getting a proper leaving do and I was supposed to tag along to that. I said no and got a small one for myself.